Update on my continuing OLD adventures
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| Thu, 01-18-2007 - 11:55am |
So, it appears the Rescheduler has disappeared again...I'm more annoyed than anything else, since we went out a bunch of times and I feel like he "should" have told me that he didn't want to see me any more rather than just disappearing. But you can't make people do the right thing, so oh well, I'm trying to just let it go.
Anyway, I put up another CL ad about a week ago and have been fielding a bunch of responses. Because of all the ice on the roads here I didn't end up meeting anyone until yesterday...originally I had meets scheduled for Tues and Wed but the Tues one got rescheduled because of the weather. So I ended up having two meets yesterday and both were really good.
The first was actually with a guy who answered my CL ad back in Sept but he was living in another city and planning to move back here soon. At my suggestion, we emailed once a week or so just to keep in touch while he was firming up his plans. Anyway, he's now here and we had just a great meet. He even brought me presents, LOL, including a CD he'd made for me! They were intended as a thank you for being so patient (his move was delayed a couple times). We really seemed to hit it off and had a great time talking...and we have 2 more dates scheduled (we're going to a sports bar to watch the Pats/Colts game on Sunday and then I invited him to a concert I have tickets for on Monday--normally I wouldn't see someone new 2 nights in a row but I thought he'd really enjoy this concert so I figured what the heck). He even called me right after I got home to say how much he'd enjoyed meeting me and that he couldn't wait to see me again. Now that's how a guy who's interested behaves ;-)! It could be overwhelming but it's not--he seems really grounded, just enthusiastic about me. Anyway, we'll see what happens of course, but it's nice to feel excited about someone new.
The 2nd guy was quite nice also. I didn't feel quite the instant connection I did with the first guy but I definitely felt enough of a connection that I want to see him again. He's going away this weekend but asked me out again for either Sun or Mon, and I had to turn him down. But we're going to talk when he gets back and plan another date.
So now I'm trying to decide if I even want to meet any of the other guys--there are a few others who I was planning to meet but now I don't really feel I want to bother--none of them seem as good on paper, if you will, as the two guys I met yesterday. But I know from experience that things may not work out with either of these guys so I should probably meet the others.
Sheri

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That rescheduler sounds awful... I'm surprised you put up with that for as long as you did. He must be somethin' else (and he knows it too).
Thanks everyone, I'll let you all know how Sun and Mon go, but so far so good--batchelor #1 has been keeping in touch since our meet on Wed so that's been nice. I didn't hear from the guy I had tentatively scheduled coffee with for this afternoon but that's ok--I'm not going to bother to ask what happened since he couldn't be bothered.
There are two CL guys I might follow up with next week, but we'll see.
And Coolas, be careful with giving the disappearing guy another chance...that was the original problem with the Rescheduler. I thought that since he was fairly consistent in seeing and calling me over about a 2-month period or so (and we *talked* about not him disappearing on me again) that he wouldn't do that again. But lo and behold, he has ;-). I knew it was a risk going in so I'm not surprised, obviously, but I am a bit disappointed.
Sheri
Well he cancelled on me yesterday due to work that was due out this morning...I was not terribly impressed, to say the least.. He then totally grovelled and asked to meet me today at the gym to plan our next 'hot date'... Sigh.. I tell you, the last time a guy pulled this cr*p I was so out of there, but there is something about this one.. I have not felt this level of compatibility with someone in years - literally - he is the first man I have met down here in 5 years that just hits the mark on so many levels. Obviously, if this behavior continues much longer, I'll have to next him, but I do hope he steps up to the plate. I knew after he resurfaced from the disappearing act that getting more involved with this guy would probably be an exercise in frustration - and it is, lol!!! I also said to a friend of mine that if I was going to date him it would probably require a lot of patience on my part.. It's just a shame that I am not a particularly patient person!
I am most certainly keeping my options open at this point; if someone else comes along that I find interesting, I will have no hesitation in dating others... But there is something about this guy...I am not yet ready to walk away... Will keep you posted.
Coolas
I totally understand...I felt the same way about the Rescheduler--we always had a great time together and there was definitely mutual attraction and lots of laughs, good conversation...so I don't really get why he didn't seem to want to spend time with me on a more regular basis. Oh well, moot point now, since he seems to have ghosted again anyway. I hope your story has a better ending.
I ended up seeing R (Batchelor #1) twice this weekend plus we have our date for tonight to go to the concert. Sat afternoon I was supposed to go to the opening of our new Sculpture Park downtown with a friend of mine and she bailed on me. R had mentioned that he was planning on going so we ended up meeting up for a couple hours to walk around the park and have some coffee (but then I had dinner plans with another friend so that worked out well). Then we watched the Pats/Colts game together (at a sports bar) yesterday afternoon/evening. We had a very nice time both times--conversation is easy and we just seem to be hitting it off, which is great. He's flying back to where he was living to pick up his car tomorrow and will be gone for 3-4 days which is a good thing, because I think our biggest challenge is going to be wanting to spend too much time together too soon ;-).
The other guy seems to have disappeared though...he was traveling back to the Midwest this weekend though so he may have been delayed getting back due to bad weather, who knows (he was supposed to return yesterday). I sent him an email last night just saying I hoped he'd had a safe trip, but haven't heard back from him.
Sheri
Sheri, That's great that you and bachelor #1 (alias "R") are getting on so well. May it continue to go well. May this be the beginning of a wonderful year for you.
Elsa
Hey, Sheri.
I say the exact same things as elarisa and biochic said.
You deserve the best!
You go, girl!
Sheri,
I say the same things as what elarisa and biochic said.
You deserve the best, girl!
Thanks to all of you who posted your good wishes, I appreciate it ;-).
Our date last night was great--we really enjoyed the concert (Ladysmith Black Mambazo) and just had fun being together. I'm really wishing we could just fast forward to the time where he knows all my negative qualities and likes me anyway, and vice versa, though, LOL! But I know it's pretty much impossible to fast forward through that--it all has to evolve organically.
Anyway, he's flying out this morning to finish getting his stuff and car from the place he was living and will be back this weekend...I think a little break from seeing each other will be good since I've gotten a little too used to seeing him over the last few days ;-).
Sheri
Ok, I need some help.
I just heard from bachelor #2 and he wants to get together later this week. And I'd like to see him too, because I enjoyed meeting him last week and don't want to close off my options yet. So what's the problem, you ask? Well, as those of you who "know" me know very well, I am the queen of not wanting to become exclusive too early and dating several people and it doesn't usually bother me to do so, even if I like one guy more than the others--but I feel really, really guilty about it right now because of R (bachelor #1)! Now, R and I have not talked about exclusivity but he has said some things that lead me to believe that he's not dating any one else and that he doesn't believe in dating more than one person at once--but he hasn't clearly said that so it didn't seem appropriate to me to say, ok, well that's not something I agree with. He's also very big on honesty and being straightforward (which I like and appreciate) so I guess I'm a little afraid that if I don't say something about dating other people and it comes out, that he will feel I haven't been honest with him.
So I'm thinking of bringing it up the next time I see him, in kind of a "this is my philosophy on dating and exclusivity, I prefer to date for a while before committing to date each other exclusively, what do you think?" way. Any thoughts or feedback?
Sheri
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