Update on my second meet

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Update on my second meet
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 12:34am
Well, that guy I went to see last weekend (the one that was "too good to be true") came to see me this weekend. He came on Friday night and left today. He brought me 6 yellow roses. He said we hadn't seen each other in six days so he gave me a rose for each day. He brought my daughter a daisy. I thought it was very thoughtful. We went miniature golfing with my duaghter and neice and then went by ourselves to the shore and dinner. Today, we went on my cousin's boat with 13 other people, including my daughter and neices and nephews. He really was great with the kids and very thoughtful all weekend. In case anyone was wondering, no, we didn't sleep together. I just would not feel comfortable with that situation, especially knowing him so short a time, with my daughter in the house. You can't just preach the morals. :) He had no issue with that. As for my feelings right now, I have to admit I'm torn. I feel totally comfortable around him. He treats me better than anyone has in a long time and I have some attraction, but I don't know if I have enough attraction if you know what I mean? Very confusing. Well, just thought I'd update anyone interested.
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:03am

You didnt ask...but I am going to advise that you keep your life with your daughter separate from your dating life until you are serious with someone.(a year?) Save dating time for time she can go slumber-partying or visiting relatives etc like kids do..ya know time with grandma, aunt xx, or out with her friends too.

Kids attach and don't understand when someone doesn't come around anymore, they also see their parents as "parents" and not people on a date. I am not judging you...just giving advice. I am squirmy about that kind of thing. I think kids should be allowed to be kids and not lil people who get to put opinions out about who their parents date or get attached to them. They will become part of the package when your relationship becomes serious enough. Protect your kid, protect yourself from complication.

Cater to the woman in you a lil not just the mom. You will be happier with that as well, I feel certain.

You dont know about enough attraction to him yet (which is completely sane and normal...if you were over the moon i'd say you were unrealistic)youve not spent a lot of time yet with him. SO YAY YOU FOR BEING NORMAL. :whew: The quicker the burn the quicker the burn out...does that make sense? Those who are "in love" after 2 weeks...are ignorant fools lol....you seem a-ok to me =)

just consider it. Sounds like a nice weekend you had.
Lizzie

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 12:35pm

Lizzie-


You are so right on target.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 01-09-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 3:10pm
I understand your advice and am not dragging men in and out of my house in case any are wondering that. My daughter is still being a kid and I usually don't introduce her to my dates. Due to the distance he lives and the plans we had, it would have been really dificult for him to just come down and live all in the same day. My daughter and I are open enough that I honestly don't worry about her getting attached. She just views it as a friend of mine that came to visit, not her future dad. You would have to know my daughter and our relationship though to understand that. My biggest concern right now is actually feeling pressured to be exclusive too soon. I need to address that with him. I never want to hurt someone's feelings or mislead someone since I know how much I dislike feeling I was mislead by someone. Thanks for the input though.