Update on my situation.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2003
Update on my situation.....
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 10:08am

Well, I have an updat to my situation. He called me and asked me if I could meet him in Baton Rouge. He has a job that he only knows like a day ahead if he is off. So I begged my boss and she let me off. So, I made the 5 hour trip to baton rouge.

And, he was everything and more. He was nice, funny cute, just like on the phone. In fact, it was the best date I've been on. I really, really like him. Of course, now I am scared because I'm afraid of what will happen (scared of getting hurt).

Oh, and thanks for the advice and sisfox, it was on equestrian singles. ~Stacy~

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 10:22pm

congrats Stacy - I hope it continues well. I love it when things go well on a date. Kind of gives you confidence for the next date or guy.

take things slow if you are afraid of getting hurt - that way you'll ease into whatever you two are meant to be !

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 1:34am

Hi Stacy,

I don't want to be a downer, but some guys will act like it's such a great meeting or date the first time, the conversation is flowing, the attraction seems to be there -then they never contact you again!

It happens and has happened to many of us on here. So please don't get your hopes up too high in case this were to happen to you (and I'm nopt saying it will). You just have to say to yourself that it was a good time and try not to think about it too much. That way you have no expectations and if he *doesn't* contact you again, it isn't so hurtful. The only reason I am saying this is because you said you were scared of getting hurt, yet it's completely normal to feel that way.

Letting yourself build it up in your mind and imagining all of the possibilities of what it could lead to, can be very dangerous for your emotional well being. Go on with your life, do things you always do, and try not to dwell on it. That way, if he does call, great! But I do hope that he does, but I have been there before and know it can hurt when it seems like everything was so great and then he vaporizes (or ghosts as we say in OLD)!

I don't understand why some guys do this, but they do and there is really no good explanation that makes sense to me. Maybe they either realize that the distance issue could be a problem, or they were acting more like they liked you than they really did, or they just aren't ready to make a step to getting involved with someone.

Many times ghosting is NOT about you, but issues that they have going on within themselves, so you CAN NOT take it personal. You have to let it go and move on to the next prospect!

But I hope that it grows into a great thing for you two!

Sunshine