Upon further reflection....

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Upon further reflection....
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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 11:33am

I'd been emailing with a guy from Match. Things seemed to be great, but he just updated his profile to include 2 things that are not compatible with me. He said he was devoutly Catholic (I'm just not interested in religion) & then gushed about kids being a gift from God & dreaming about tucking his kids in a night, raising a family, blah blah. His kid preference had been changed from "maybe" to "definitely". Since I'm CFBC, this won't wash (though I'm not picky enough that he can't already have kids). Now I think I'm just going to ghost on him, though if he emails wondering where I went, I'll give it to him straight. I hate ghosting, but sometimes I think it's more humane at times.

So, anyone else have someone change their profile drastically in the middle of correspondence?




Edited 1/21/2006 11:35 am ET by travkitty
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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 1:30pm

Yikes! I've seen plenty of people make minor changes in the midst of correspondence (adding pics, tweaking comments) but religion & kids are pretty major!

How to handle it, I'd say if you've only been emailing then it's no biggie to just disappear, and tell the truth if he asks. If your profile says you don't want kids, then it really should go without saying, if he has to ask then not only is he incompatible, he's not very observant either! ;)

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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 9:15pm

It's true that it says "no" under the "want kids" section of my profile. It also says "spiritual but ont religious" which is what I am. I believe in a higher power, but I'm not into church or organized religion. It's his own fault for not paying attention. :)

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:24am

Well how nice of him to be honest (said in sarcasm)... Maybe he just found God and some kids? hehehe. But what a creep! Who knows what other skeletons lurk in his closet?