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|Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:18pm|
I assume my problem has been discussed already here, I have been seeing this woman I met online for about 14 months. We were exclusive and say that we loved each other but I sure didn't feel it on my end from her. To make a long story short she had family problems and the lost her job back in Feb, and had basically 300 dollars a month to live on with no other income. So I naturally as the boyfriend decided to help her ,this was only suppose to last 1 or 2 months till she got anything for a job. Well 6 months later here we are and still no job and the reason being she is still on the dating sites and this is no exaggeration for 10-12 hours a day.
We just had a big argument and I told her its either get a job get off the site or I am history,to my suprise she picked the site because she says she has friends there and I am being insecure and controlling. Now I admit I am insecure from my last relationship as I have told her because I caught my ex wife cheating and explained to her that every time she logs on, she is adding to an already insecure person and hurting my feelings ,which obviously she doesnt seem to care about.
I don't see the allure to the dating site once you have a real live person and yes I know people will say she used me because thats what I think also and I told her to ask anyone even the so called friends on the net if thier significant other would like them being all day and nite on a dating site talking to the opposite sex and she said they don't mind and I say BS they say that just because they are on the site themselves .
Anyone I have presented this question to agrees with me it is not insecurity or control to ask someone to remove thier profile but a sign of respect and being together this long I shouldn't even have to ask.
What do you think.