Various gripes
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Various gripes
| Sat, 04-30-2005 - 10:22am |
I hate how match.com crops photos.
I don't understand why a guy in Parsippany NJ who says in his profile he's looking 75 miles from there and doesn't want his date to smoke would wink at me. In fact there's more than one guy who says "No Way" on the smoking issue about his date, yet they wink at me. Why?
I don't understand why a 39 year old man would put 23-40 for the age range they're looking for in a woman.
And of course the regular gripe of take off the dang sunglasses and one pic of your pet(s) is enough.....lol.

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I bet you some of them see your photo, think you're pretty, and don't even bother going past that to read the profile. Maybe it's the ol' philosophy of throwing out your line as many times as you can to see what sort of fish bite?
"I bet you some of them see your photo, think you're pretty, and don't even bother going past that to read the profile."
ABSO-F'ING-LUTELY.
I wish I had a nickel for every reply I got where the repsondent attended church "more than once a week" and claimed to be "very conservative."
They clearly breezed right past the "liberal" and "agnostic" portions of my answers.
Makes for lively conversation though, I imagine!
Tracy
I have to laugh at myself for all the work I put into writing a decent profile. With a nod to lg, who like the other guys on this board seem to be the exceptions, I don't believe any guys even bother to read the profiles! If your pics look okay they will wink at you.
These are the same guys that will drop you pretty fast when they find out you don't actually match up at all (like the other poster, who got dropped by a guy because she smoked!). This is after a few emails, maybe a meet. A complete waste of time, really.
I've always done that. And why? Because a few of them were obvious mismatches!!
I recall one minor disappointment, though. He and I were good on paper and then after a few emails he emailed me a farewell message because he couldn't get past the smoking thing (I do, he didn't). A very nice guy. Too bad.
amjay
I thought I would address each of your gripes individually.
<<< I hate how match.com crops photos. >>>
Yeah, this does suck. One of the pics I have is actually a full body shot but they cropped the entire bottom of it, so you can't see the bottom half of me.
<<< I don't understand why a guy in Parsippany NJ who says in his profile he's looking 75 miles from there and doesn't want his date to smoke would wink at me. In fact there's more than one guy who says "No Way" on the smoking issue about his date, yet they wink at me. Why? >>>
I have mixed feeling about this one. It's very subjective, but I will sometimes contact women that have things listed in their profile that "disqualify" me (i.e. they are looking for blue eyes and I have brown eyes). I will also sometimes contact women that list something in their profile that I say I don't want in mine (i.e. I would prefer a non-smoker and I list that in my profile, but it's not something that's a dealbreaker for me). I have also contacted women way outside what I have listed as my mileage range. That happens when you do a search of women within 25 miles of you and only get about 8 pages.
Again, it's very subjective because I am just *guessing* sometimes about what a dealbreaker is to some women. Using the eye color example -- she may *really* only want a guy that has blue eyes, and if so I guess she won't be emailing me back, but I think most reasonable people would not disqualify someone based on eye color.
All that said, contacting someone who has big-time differences in their profile is pretty silly.
<<< I don't understand why a 39 year old man would put 23-40 for the age range they're looking for in a woman. >>>
They are hoping to find a "hot young babe". I think it's totally unreasonable, but there will always be a lot of this going on with guys. Men really are pigs. :-)
<<< And of course the regular gripe of take off the dang sunglasses and one pic of your pet(s) is enough.....lol. >>>
I think women are better about posting good pictures in general, but I have surfed through some guys profiles before and I'm amazed at all the men with a webcam shot and a terrible scowl on their face. Some look like axe murderers, lol. For men, we see a lot of pics with a girl all cozied up to a man. The other day I saw one of a very attractive woman at a bar, beer in hand, surrounded by 4 guys. Not the best picture selection.
Hi Eric!
PG would like to respond to one of the comments you made....if that's okay?
The question was: "I don't understand why a 39-year old man would
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What's the problem with a person wishing to communicate with a very young member of the opposite sex? Is it out of line when a person falls into a certain age category? Is this really "going to extremes" (quoting the Billy Joel tune) when someone indicates a personal preference?>>\
Communicate? LOL, yeah, right.
My first BF when I re-entered the dating scene was then 24 to my 36. Communication wasn't high on the agenda. ;)
I had a date with a 26 year old a few weekends ago. I knew it was going to be a one and done when he didn't even know who Tom DeLay was, had no clear opinion on the war and wasn't even a registered voter. Communicate? Ummm...no. We danced great together the night we met, love the same music and have the same sense of humor - but hardly the stuff relationships are made of. He's HOT - but beyond being pretty and a good dancer, there's nothing there for me - he'll be perfect for a 22 year old.
If a 40+ guy is honest about why he wants a 25 year old - I don't have a problem with it. But please don't pretend there's any depth to wanting that.
So why DO you have 25 as your lower age limit? What is a man in his 40s possibly going to have in common with a woman that young? That's what most of us don't understand.
And if you're willing to date someone 20 years younger than you, why wouldn't you be willing to date someone, say, 5 years older than you? (I seem to recall that we are about the same age so I'm assuming that by having 45 as your upper limit, you're not willing to date anyone who's even a little bit older than you, but I could be mistaken.)
Please note that I truly believe that everyone's entitled to their preferences; I'm just seeking to understand the rationale behind this one, as it's always one that makes me scratch my head...I just don't get it.
Thanks,
Sheri
Edited 5/2/2005 10:42 am ET ET by northwestwanderer
I kind of agree with Sheri.
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