Various gripes

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Various gripes
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Sat, 04-30-2005 - 10:22am

I hate how match.com crops photos.

I don't understand why a guy in Parsippany NJ who says in his profile he's looking 75 miles from there and doesn't want his date to smoke would wink at me. In fact there's more than one guy who says "No Way" on the smoking issue about his date, yet they wink at me. Why?

I don't understand why a 39 year old man would put 23-40 for the age range they're looking for in a woman.

And of course the regular gripe of take off the dang sunglasses and one pic of your pet(s) is enough.....lol.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 10:37am

PG,


I don't think there's anything *wrong* with a large age difference as long as both parties are okay with it, and able to withstand the chatter about it - you know people are going to talk, just because that's human nature.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:24am

I agree with PG - age is an attitude, not a number and sweeping generalisations just can't be made, everyone is different and what suits one may not work for anyone else.


My main thing is that I'm a horrible judge of ages, and if people didn't put their age in a profile then in all likelihood I would have no real idea of how old they are; I react to the person they are, not their age on paper.


A man's got to do what a man's got to do.
A woman must do what he can't.

MS
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:40am

I'm just seeking to understand it, because I don't. I honestly don't see what a 45 year old and a 25 year old would talk about for more than a date or two. It's just one of those things that I don't "get", and I like to understand points of view different from my own. But this may just be one of those that I'm just never able to. So, is your preference based on the "younger women are generally less complicated" school of thought? You don't have to answer, but if you are willing to, I'd be interested in knowing.

But, with all due respect, PG, what I *really* don't understand is, why is it ok for YOU to have a preference for dating younger women, and a stated preference to just be friends with a woman who was born more than a couple years before you...but it's not ok for a *woman* to have that same preference? You really blasted annonymuss (sp?) in the other thread for expressing her preference to not date men who are significantly older than her, but you're asking us to respect your preference without question. Doesn't that seem inconsistent to you? Plus, you're applying the same "dating age perimeter" concept...just in the opposite direction.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:53pm

Hi JH...


The answer to your question is YES......assuming that the 65-year old lady and I had enough interests in common with each other!

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:59pm

amjay....


As I indicated in

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:04pm

Stacey....


THANK YOU for reinforcing my thoughts.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:10pm

mistress12005...


Pianoguy checked out your profile......which should really finish completing (the last two sections are missing).


Whether your ivillage user name indicates something specific about your character or not doesn't matter to me.

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Registered: 01-12-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 4:32pm

Hi Sheri....


Pianoguy wishes there was a "white flag" available on the emoticom selection board.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:14pm

Ok, thanks for clarifying that!

Truce...although I really wasn't trying to fight with you, just understand your position, and I appreciate your explanations.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 8:44pm

I'm usually reluctant to jump into the fray, but methinks pg doth protest too much, perhaps... :- )

"Most ivillagers know (by now) that my issue isn't with "personal preferences"....it's with stereotyping based on an individual's age."

It's not "stereotyping" to say that it is difficult for a 45 and a 25 year old to find common ground, shared life experiences, etc. I'm 42 -- I "dated" a 28 year old for a few months a while back, and trust me, you run out of things to talk about after a while. (Not that there's anything wrong with that ;-) Maybe it was a reflection on him as a particular kind of 28-year old, but I doubt it. I will concede, however, that we COULD talk about music forever...

When I mentioned the mid-40s men I know who are perfectly happy with their 25 year olds, I wasn't implying they were with them for the sex only, but because they didn't want to be "challenged." If a man TRULLY wants an equal PARTNER, I don't see him finding it in someone 15 years younger. 15 years OLDER, perhaps...

Tracy