The waiting is the hardest part...

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The waiting is the hardest part...
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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 8:43pm

(I'm singing Tom Petty here)...and I have NO patience, LOL!!!

I had the long-awaited 2nd date lunch with the guy I met a couple weeks ago before my trip (the one who didn't call until I prodded him into it, even though we had a great first date and he said he was going to). It was a blast. He's very funny and SO cute. I'm so smitten. He said something about trying to get together again on Sunday but nothing firm--argh. So now I have to wait and see if he will call and set it up--I hate this part.

Sigh. The other guys I'm seeing don't interest me as much as he does, but his schedule is crazy so it may not work. And the guy I *really* like is in California...another big sigh. He's the guy I had a fling with over a year ago who moved there--we've stayed in touch as friends and I was really fine with it. Then we have dinner while I was there recently and HE has to go and bring up how much he cares about me, blah, blah, blah, but he doesn't want to do a LDR. I was doing FINE with being friends but now of course I can't stop thinking about him--well, except when I am thinking about the guy from lunch, LOL.

Anyway, that's my update ;-).

Sheri

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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 10:17pm

Love that song! Unfortunately, it's a waiting game sometimes, I am one of the most impatient people I know, too, I want it yesterday, however, the waiting is so worth it : )

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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 11:16pm

I started humming that song in my head, too, when I read the title of your post. "Yeah yeah (yeah yeah) yeah yeah (yeah yeah) yeah-ee-yeah-ee-yeah-ee-yeah-ee waiting is the hardest part..." :)

I don't have much advice other than to say hang in there! I know it's not fun at all sometimes.













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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 12:18am

I'll take your post backwards... you know what I feel about the CA guy so long live the ummmm... I just lost the song, anyway...


The first guy I'd be a bit worried about his interest level. If you had to prod him the first time, even if he called and set a firm date, wouldn't that same attitude eventually come back up? I don't want to be

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 1:57am

Oh, believe me, I'm right there with you on the concern about lunch guy's interest level. We'll see. But yeah, once you have to prod 'em, there's always that doubt.

Just got off the phone with the guy in CA...sigh, is all I can say.

Sheri

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 2:25am

I'm with Cl on this. Keep your expectations low with the guy you had to prod to call you/ask you out. How are you going to feel if you develop feelings for him and he starts acting uninterested again, or ghosts on you?...

Forget the other one too; he said he did not want a long distance relationship. That's the only thing you need to listen to.

Like CL said, you deserve more. I'd look for other men to date.

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 7:35am

Double sigh! I swear I think some people (men and women) don't realize what they had 'till it's gone. Unless that's the key--they don't want it until it's gone which would bring up a whole different discussion.


At the end of the day, if he was serious, I do believe he'd find a way to make it work. But at least you know you have someone to visit. And enjoy the attention of it... that's always nice!

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 1:21pm

LOVE Tom Petty!

I recently ended a relationship with a man that I'd been inovlved since right before my Dad died - we weren't on the same page and it became clear that I couldn't continue it the way it was and he wasn't willing to do antying differently. So. It was hard, still hurts a bit, but its in my best LT interests to move on.

I dated a guy twice over the course of a few weeks - who on paper was all I want in a man, but that 'wow' factor wasnt' there for me. He's a nice man, but, I ended up breaking what would have been our 3rd date because I felt such heaviness when I thought about it - he took it well enough.

For now - I'm focusing on me and my friendships - and I'm also re-evaluating my goals for the future - somethings need tweaking....:)

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 2:43pm

Hey Sheri!

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Sat, 04-14-2007 - 3:23pm
Hang tough. If Lunch Guy or Cali Guy is really into it, they'll find a way to try and make it happen. And if not, then the heck with them, there's more fish in that ocean. ;)
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Sun, 04-15-2007 - 3:54pm
Sorry that waiting DOES suck!

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