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| Tue, 04-04-2006 - 8:25pm |
I saw his profile on Match.com and winked. He gave me his number and we talked on the phone a few times and finally met last Sat. We really hit it off. We will have our 2nd date this Friday and have talked on the phone a couple more times. I love the fact that we are talking openly about our families and sharing a bit about past relationships, while also cracking jokes and making each other laugh. It is a definite connection. I want to take it slow yet, I feel so good about what is happening here. I am afraid that the phone is making it too easy to assume a level of commitment that can't be achieved until we've spent more face time together. I am actually excited but very nervous for our first kiss as our first date ended with a great hug. My mind is wandering even more and I am especially nervous about starting a sexual relationship with someone again (broke up w/ year-long BF in Jan.) I know we've only had one REAL date, but I know how this kind of attraction progresses. Our comfort level grows with each conversation. I am scared of screwing things up. I am scared of being too serious about him right off the bat. I am scared of over-analyzing the crap out of it so that I can't let go and fall in love again. What is a girl to do?

I'd try to avoid getting too worked up over the what if's and maybe's. Dating should be exciting and fun...not a nerve wracker. If you are having serious qualms about repeating the past, maybe you aren't quite ready for dating again just yet.
Do you feel as though you've given yourself enough time to recuperate from the breakup?
If so, then just try to enjoy yourself and see how things progress.
Its easy to get caught up in the possibilites. I know, b/c i am right there with you. I "met" someone on Match in Jan. So its been over 2 months of pretty much almost daily communication. & good communication, we talk about a lot. Serious & not serious. Very flirtatious at times as well. & we have spent 1 date, & then 1 weekend together. & continue to speak daily. & i will see him as well this week.
Some say fast intense situations like this can burn out fast, & that may well be the case. But on the other hand, i know attraction physically & intellectually is what has sort of brought us together - so who knows.