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Want to take a break
| Mon, 02-20-2006 - 6:34pm |
Except I don't!
I was thinking very hard lately (scary) and realize that I don't really want to date until I have a job that I love. I'm sick of going through the whole, "What do you do?" thing and not being excited about sharing it. It's almost like I'm ashamed of my job and don't feel like I can get the kind of men I want while I'm still working there. I don't know if that makes sense.
Anyway, I almost feel like I should stop looking for a while and focus on my job hunt, but that doesn't help the fact that I'm still lonely, that I still want a boyfriend, and I still want to get married. I mean, how much time can I afford to take off from dating? Sucks...



I dont like my job and it is not my title that I dont like it is the way we do things at my company. V. chaotic and unprofessional. I feel if I have a BF I will be nagging him all day about how much my job sucks! but I admit I m a bit too sensitive in this company.
So I feel sometimes that I should work on fixing my professional life b4 my love life as I know my nagging can ruin it for the most understanding guy I will meet.
there are lots of people that don't like their jobs BUT that doesn't stop them from enjoying life when they can.Life is too short!!
I worked in Career Placement for 15 years before switching offices (actually my job was eliminated, but that's a long story). I now work in Minority Services on a college campus. I have always been "work centered" in that nothing much matters if you don't have a job that pays enough to pay the bills. It also helps if you like the job or at least don't hate it. For me, I have never made enough money with just my one office job, but I have enough years in that I can retire in five. I've moonlighted for a number of years, and I sometimes feel bad that I don't have more free time to date or do just what I want to do.
However, there have been some perks from the 2nd job besides just some extra money. I've made a number of really good friends through my part-time job. Sometimes I feel closer to my co-worker buddies than I do my own family. They have heard all my dating woes and sympathized with me and shared their bad stories about men and life. They also rejoice when something really good happens for me. We laugh and cry together, so in some ways, my 2nd job has been a blessing--something far beyond helping me make the house payment. But, it has put some restrictions on my social life--that is the trade-off really.
I don't know what you do for a living, but I would find it surprising if a guy thought any less of you because of what you did for a living (as long as it was legal LOL). For myself, I abhore laziness or someone who doesn't want to hold down a job. I'd say that would be on my top 5 list of qualities I'd want in a guy. I'm guessing that a lot of guys would see it as positive that you had a job, even if it was not something you were particularly proud of or liked really well. I don't know that I would let that put my dating life on hold, but if it is affecting your self-esteem by staying in this particular company, then start job searching and focus on that for a while. Who knows, you might meet the man of your dreams at a new place of employment. Keep us posted.