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was it me?
| Fri, 07-01-2005 - 8:18pm |
After meeting with someone from online, do you ever wonder if you did or said something that the other person just didn't like, enough to not contact you again? I know all about the "ghosts" but it still bothers me wondering these things. I thought everything went well today with our coffee date. He told me that he enjoyed himself and all that good stuff and that he'd contact me tonight on msn. He didn't put me in mind of someone who would lie like that. Maybe something came up so that he couldn't be online but I don't know and it's driving me crazy, especially when I really didn't think he would do that.

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I totally agree 100% with what small peanut said in her response post. Really excellent points to remember,when participating with online dating and/or IRL situations as well.
I learned a very valuable lesson this past February re: the whole emailing scenario. Invested 3 weeks of effort and time emailing and IMing with a guy , only to finally be stood up the night we were finally going to meet. In retrospect, I now Know that he was in all probability within the 40% of men online that was never even available... (i.e. already in a committed relationship).
If a person is really interested in you and of course, trully available for dating people, then they'll apply a concerted effort in trying to make contact and/or to reach you! If your intuition senses that you might be getting strung along, then in all probability you are... Which at that point its time to move on.
All to often we avoid listening to our intuition because our emotions and our heart take over. We've all been there at some point in time... We hope and we wish and we fantasize about all the what if(s) etc.
Best advice that I can share is, that your Intuition is a very valuable tool> let it be your guide. The other really important thing is to keep your emotional perspective in check in regard to dating. Remember that the healthiest Relationships evolve over time. A beautiful house is not built within one week. Rather it begins with a strong foundation. In the case of dating , we're talking more about trust, sincerity and more importantly respect & courtesy. If those elements are missing, the relationship is never going to grow past the physical attraction part.... (Just my 2 cents) LM :)
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