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We met, now what?
| Fri, 06-17-2005 - 8:45pm |
I'm puzzled...maybe you can help! I've been trying this online dating thing and have as by at least 7 guys to meet. Each initial "meeting" seems to go well. They eveb tell me I look better in person then my picture. Then, the next day I usually get an e-mail from the guy telling me that he had a good time and hope we can do it again. Out of those 7 guys only 2 have have asked me out a 2nd time and usually its not planned, just sort of spur of the moment. What's up with that? How come guys don't ask girls out on a REAL date anymore? If I really like the guy, what can I do to insure that I get a 2nd date? (Is this common, to meet and then disappear?) I've always been taught that guys like to be the one to pursue but should I ask them out? Because of past experiences asking guys out and then them not seeming so interested, I usually wait for the guys to ask me out. Any advice on this situation would be appreciated!!!!!

Welcome to the board and the world of online dating. Yes. It's very common to have a seemingly good date only to never hear from the guy again.
Just check out this link: http://members.tripod.com/cl-jhoover21-ivil//id64.html
Also check out this one: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlcyber&msg=7195.1&ctx=128
Regarding your questions....If a guy calls you at the last minute and doesn't make the effort to plan a date in advance, his interest level is probably not that high.
If you really like a guy the only thing you can do is be yourself. You can't make someone more interested than they already are. In other words, you can't get a guy to ask you out if he doesn't want to go out with you again. (Here's another link for you: http://members.tripod.com/cl-jhoover21-ivil//id75.html)
My advice would be to just keep doing what you're doing. Online dating is a numbers game. Don't pay too much attention to the "success" stories these dating sites advertise. The reality is that the majority of people will meet a whole lot of people before they end up in a relationship. Out of 14 men I met online only 5 went past the first meet - and yeah - I also heard a lot of "I'll call you" and "We should do this again" etc. Don't worry. What you're experiencing is normal.