This weeks disaster of a date

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This weeks disaster of a date
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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 6:57pm

So, I went on a date Saturday. I met this guy online who seemed really sweet and we emailed for awhile then started talking on the phone and all was good. I really liked his personality and we were into similiar hobbies which was nice. So I really started to like talking to him and we decided to meet in person.

How do you know a date is going south? When you pull up and the first question he asks is I know I promised you we'd go out tonight, but my buddy called and asked if I could bounce at a bar tonight. Do you mind I can use the money? So of course I say no go ahead like there's really any other answer. So for dinner he ordered fries. No really fries. He picked the restaurant and I like it as well and was looking forward to a nice meal. He said he didn't want to be full in case he had to throw anyone out of the bar later.

I got dressed up in nice jeans, spent time drying my newly colored hair straight so it would look nice, put on makeup and then wore my 4 inch heeled boots. He passed up big boobs, long hair and a little arse to bounce at a bar in DC?????

And it gets better. He told me he was a big guy 6'1" and 285. Not fat, but thick. Well I hugged him when I got there and my arms didn't meet in back he was so big. Oh and he had no neck. He told me he had all his hair, but that was questionable and really thin in front.

Oh and he asked me over dinner what my type was. There's no good answer to that.

So that was my night the good the bad and the what the...

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:04pm
Ouch! Man oh man ... he didnt DESERVE you anyway!

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Sun, 10-29-2006 - 7:43pm
Well, look at the bright side.

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Registered: 08-30-2006
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 8:19pm
Were you going to give him a "little arse"? LOL I wouldn't expect to be able to put my arms around 6'1, 285 lbs. unless I was at least 5'10 myself.
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Sun, 10-29-2006 - 9:51pm

And you came out on the short end of this date HOW?!?!?! Given what you had to say about him, I think the right thing happened... :oD

Jim

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 9:16am
Oh and there is a good answer to "what's your type" - if you have a type, you say so but if you don't focus on a particular physical characteristic, you say "I don't really have a type physically, but I like someone who is intelligent, honest, genuine, has a sense of humor, can carry on a conversation, likes sports... (you get the idea, fill

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Mon, 10-30-2006 - 3:35pm
when i first read this i thought you meant he asked if he could bounce from you to hang out with his friends at a bar. Either way, that is pretty bad...BUT to play devil's advocate, we dont know his financial situation...maybe he is hurting for cash. It is weird that he would blow off a date to bounce at a bar...and from your description of him it doesnt sound like he'd have women throwing themselves at him...but who knows, he does work at a bar...I would forget him, unless he REALLY makes it up to you. But it doesnt sound like that will happen...sorry about that! Dating is not always FUN!
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Mon, 10-30-2006 - 4:42pm

OK, I'm picturing a big "Paul Bunion" type of guy who is probably not great looking. But what I do not understand is why he would even ask you out if he did not have the cash to take you to a "normal" dinner. I tend to want to feel sorry for the guy if he is strapped for cash, but on the other hand, if he is so strapped that he cannot do a regular dinner with a date, then he should not be doing OLD.

I have had a couple guys I met where I felt like they did not want to "invest" the cost of a meal with me unless they were going to get something out of the deal. Bounty hunter guy and I had 2 "sort of" dates and both were at times much later than the normal dinner hour. I was not hungry either time, but it was just like he didn't want to have a regular date. You feel short-changed when the guy does not step up to the plate when it comes to dating. It is not the meal or the cost but the lack of courtesy and effort that amazes me with men who have profiles online. Most women expect to be courted a bit and when the guy acts like you are no big deal, it is extremely off-putting.

However, as one other poster said, you did not invest a lot of time with this one. I love hearing the stories though. They certainly do add to the list of horror stories we can share with people when discussing OLD or dating in general. Hopefully, your next one will be a LOT better than this last date.

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Tue, 10-31-2006 - 5:37pm

Actually, we emailed for a couple of months and talked on the phone for a couple of weeks. No most women would not even glance at him. Oh and I'm 5'9" and I couldn't get my arms around him.

No he doesn't work at a bar. He has a regular job during the day. I could understand the strapped for cash thing, but he picked the restaurant. And I'm not a prude. I had talked to him enough that yeah after a couple of dates I probably would have slept with him if I was attracted to him.

I am seriously thinking about giving up OLD as none of the guys I have met have had social skills or manners. Maybe it's the area I'm in, but I think I need to just face facts and accept that there's no one out there for me. I have a son so I'm not looking for marriage and I own my own home so I don't need someone to support me. I do miss sex though. I wish I could find someone to just date and sleep with on a regular basis. You'd think that would be easy, but apparently not.