A weighty issue

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A weighty issue
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 1:07am

hey guys,

LBF's thread made me wonder something.. Since the new "average" size for american women is a size 14, why are men on non-speciality sites so picky? (I am sure the same goes for men, but im not sure if the size issue is the same) It seems a little unrealistic, I know for a fact in NYC, men seem to be on a crusade to only date someone that is in single digit sizes (specifically size six and under), including men that are much larger then the women's equivalent of a size 14. What do you guys think?

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, the average U.S. woman is 5' 3.7 (162 centimeters) tall and weighs 152 pounds (69 kilograms). This corresponds to a Body Mass Index of 26.3 kilograms/meters², which is slightly less than the average man's.




Edited 4/17/2005 1:36 am ET ET by gal_moonlight
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 3:08am

I think you need to go by if someone is healthy or not - not weight or size.

 
 
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 6:18am
I dunno. Maybe the same reason most woman want a 6 footer.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 10:03am

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Ahem, tall that is.

This subject is constantly debated, here and everywhere else in the world. But I wouldn't worry about it. There are just as many men who like a little junk in the trunk than want skinny minnies. Just as there are many women who prefer average looking men with character over the Pretty Pauls.

I just concentrate on the junk lovers and all is well.




Edited 4/17/2005 10:18 am ET ET by amjay45
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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 11:41am

LOL

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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 11:44am

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Congratulations, I know you've been working hard!

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 1:10pm

All that regular "physical activity" you're gettin' with Ricky, eh CGUN?? ;-)

You go!

Tracy

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Sun, 04-17-2005 - 2:12pm

First, 5 2, 150, if that's 'size 14' I'd say its still pleasant to me.

5 5, 5 6, 160, '160+' isn't a problem.

Funny you mention the 'trunk', and how its on your tummy,
not the trunk LOL. I think its much more pleasant if its
on the tummy/front than the trunk, so to speak.

My main point: there are actually guys out there that don't give
a hoot if you are a skinny mini :)

"I dunno. Maybe the same reason most woman want a 6 footer."

See, he makes a generalized comment. Nobobody slams him.
Now, its not my idea to be be slammed by you all.

But, when I say, "When I show up for a date, and I'm being held
to the Adrian Paul standard" (despite showing honest pics of myself)
all I am doing is giving a very specific mental image to help you
understand what I'm talking about. A six footer can be any six footer,
skinny, fat, horrible personality, etc etc (insert whatever).
So, when I say 'adrian paul', I'm just trying to give a concrete example,
one that you can look up for yourself, and see what I am talking about.

But I agree with you totally in that fat guys hit on hooters girls,
and think its gonna go somewhere. Fat guys turn down less than fat,
albeit chubby girls, for no good reason.

But I think it goes both ways. I also think both sexes lose perspective on this.

And again, there are guys out there that think chubby is OK, even preferable.

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 4:58pm
Men who are 6ft are NOT the average. If 40 percent of the population or more were 6ft tall then it would be the same issue. Like CGUN said, she is in shape, she gets plenty of exercise, there are many women who are a size 14 who exercise regularly to be healthy NOT to lose weight. You can be the picture of health on the outside and have high cholesterol and heart disease. Or you could be bulimic or anorexic and people will THINK you are healthy because you are thin when you really are not. If so many people are overweight it confuses me that someone who is overweight should have to go to a specialty site to get any interest.
Thats just my two cents.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 5:25pm

>>What do you guys think?<<

I think the average American woman is too stinkin' fat.

As is the average American man.

I think that society does seem to have more tolerance, in general, for a guy to be bigger; that's why I think some guys who might be a bit overweight themselves seem "overly picky". It doesn't make them any less hypocritical, of course.

Either way, the average American (of EITHER sex) needs to lose some weight. Saying "hey, the average woman is a size 14" (or "the average man is 35 pounds overweight") does not mean that being a size 14 (or being 35# over) is good, or cool, or nothing to worry about; overweight and obese people are still overweight/obese. They're not bad people; but the fact is that they carry too much weight.

Just because "everyone" is too big doesn't mean it's a good, or acceptable, or okie-dokie thing. Two thirds of Americans are either overweight or obese; that's not just me ranting on it, that's from the American Medical Association.

I sometimes think that both genders should be "more picky" about the size of people they date.

Maybe that'd give us, collectively, a little more impetus to lose some weight and/or support those who are trying (or need) to do that. Maybe if those guys looked in the mirror and realized they were being hypocrites, it'd get them to lose some of their own excess weight; and if people of either gender had a hard time getting dates, they'd have more reason to get back to non-overweight status.

My hat is off to CGUN, who not only has the courage to tell us she's big, but who is also DOING something about it. Good for you, CGUN! I hope you gain more and more benefit and that you can make the changes you must have accomplished (because that weight doesn't just magically melt off, any more than it magically appeared) permanent, healthy changes for the betterment of your life (which will likely be longer).

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 5:33pm

This is another issue that really gets me.

Linda

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