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| Fri, 12-23-2005 - 7:52pm |
Hi,
I have my profile online on one of the dating/marriage sites. This guy (in the "never married" category) who is good looking and well settled, made contact with me to which I only accepted communicating with him with no message, since there was no message from him.
After about a day or 2, he sent a message on the website telling me that he would like me to email him my picture (he has his pic on the website) and that he would love to talk to me on phone.
I sent him an email telling him that even though the website says that I have never been married, I was actually divorced (I went back after sending him this email and changed my marital status to divorce), that I wanted to be honest with him on the get-go and if he would still be interested, I would be more than happy to email him a pic.
He replied (thanking me for my honesty) that he wants to take a look at the future and go from there, that all of us have a past and that he would look forward to my message and pic. His email made me very happy as it gave me a feeling that this man is matured.
That same day, I emailed him my pic with this message - "Your email brightened my day. I like your attitude and so here goes my pic". This was on tuesday and it's friday and he has not responded.
What do you think? - He did not like my pic, he got busy, he is rude to have not responded to my email, will he email me back. I don't want to pursue him - is there any way I can find out what went wrong? What is the waiting time for gals - how long should a gal wait for a guy to respond before writing him off?
What should I do in case I do get a reply from him? Show a cold shoulder, wait for double the time period and then respond?
Thanks,
SK

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How do you know the waiter doesn't have a graduate degree too? I have a law degree and I've waited tables and delivered pizzas rather than practice law because I hated it so much and was trying to get a business off the ground. I found the people I worked with to be a really smart, educated, fascinating group as a whole. He could be an artist or writer or passionate about a cause or whatever...it's really snobby to assume that he has nothing to talk about other than steaks.
Sheri
Ok, thanks for clarifying. That was not at all clear from your previous post.
Sheri
ITA. One of my brother's friend was in investment banking for over 15 yrs earning 200K+ and hated that job.One day he quited his job and became a teacher making 35/yr but he was much happier.
My own brother used to wait tables, deliver furnitures, was a life guard before he's got into the medical school. I was 23, making 19K/yr fresh out of college, as a secretary w/ no benefits. I went back to school and now 6 yrs later I make over 100K. During the summer off from school, I worked as a waitress, cashier, temp, whatever job I can find to pay my bills. If anyone who dated me during those yrs thought that I was going no where in my career,they were fools. So please never assume anything.
Another thing I'd like to add is that..
Just because you have a graduate degree does not mean you are better than that waiter or anyone else or not compatitble. I know a lot of people who hold professional degrees( MBAs, JDs, MDs,PhDs) married spouses who have high school or regular college degrees. My family is a perfect example. My dad, a lawyer married my mom an art major. My grandpa, a HS school principal married grandma,an eight grade HS dropout. My aunt with MS in engineering married my uncle who is a college dropout.
so having an education does not tell you if two people are compatible folks. What does is respect, trust, communication,etc....
Regards,
Sleepless
I agree with Sheri on this...I have a Master's Degree from NYU and I'm a bartender at Chevy's. I love the social interaction and the flexibility it gives me, not to mention the money ain't so bad either. I clock out and don't take anything home with me. I'm a theatre designer and a writer and I can hold intelligent conversations and pursue a wide variety of interests. I don't make a fortune but it makes me happy.
Just my 2 cents.
Michele
edit: sorry didn't read the rest of the thread. never mind.
Edited 12/27/2005 11:01 pm ET by cheleinsf
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