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| Thu, 12-28-2006 - 3:01am |
I've posted on the other board and frankly I'm not going to waste my time with this individual anymore, but...There's this young guy I met on myspace and dated a few times, he stopped dating me. But, kept insisting he wanted to be friends, but it was internet only. Well, I let him have it, called him a liar, shady, an emotional drain, a leech, needy, insecure, etc. He deleted me 3 weeks ago. Now, he's back:
Him: "I'm sorry i had to find you from another profile, its an older one as you can see... but anyhow. I wanted to make peace... you may be done with me, and by words i would seem so... sadly, i do not want to end a note on a bad one. It was christmas, i felt like calling and wishing you and your family a happy holidays. but not sure how you would react... i do not want to echange heated words. i just want to make peace. all is to be forgiven, and all to be dust in the past... Hope you can find it in yourself to forgive me, as i do for you regardless of your answer...
With peace.
PS I don't check this mail ever. you can feel free to write me on the other site if you wish.
God bless and happy new years."
Ok, here's my confusion. We weren't even good friends, and before he deleted me, I told him I just wanted him for sex anyway. So, why would a man come back to someone who talked to him like he was a dog?? Also, why would he use a different profile to contact me? He deleted me, both our profiles are private, but I didn't block him because I didn't think I would hear from him again, so why the different profile?

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sp: "That's classy but asking for sex when you wanted a relationship and he's with someone else and yes sleeping with someone else... c'mon, let it go!!!!"
Sp, no, that's not what happened. He lied to me about why he stopped dating me, then apologized for hurting me, blah, blah. That was last summer. Since then he's been insisted that we are friends and sending me messages frequently on my space. Talking, all the time, blah, blah. He drains me emotionally because I found out he was seeing someone and it was hurtful to me. He kept on about how important I was to him, how we were friends, but he did not see me in person nor calll me on the phone. Well, this went on for months,every since he stopped dating me this summer. He said I came on too strong this last summer and scared him away. I don't know.
Well, like I already posted, I told him off and told him that all ever really wanted him for was sex anyway (wasn't true, but i was mad). So he deleted me. I thought that was the end of it, but now he's back wanting to be friends again.
This is going to sound crazy to all of you, but I've got to have him. Sexually. I don't care about his gf, it's all fair game. He should have stayed away. He opened up Pandora's box. And now when I invite him to dinner, unless he pushes me away, it's going to happen.
He didn't just come back to make peace. He still wants this sick connection with me.
No man comes back to a woman that talks to him the way I did, unless he has a history (and we don't) or an agenda. I'm weak when it comes to him, I can't help myself.
Edited 12/30/2006 4:52 am ET by purity2006
First of all, no matter how bad you "have to have him," you can't make someone do something they don't want to do.
countrygrlupnorth: "First of all, no matter how bad you "have to have him," you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. In order for this to actually happen, he has to be willing, too."
countrygrl, I believe that he does want this and that's why he came back. Very, very few men would come back and approach a woman after she talked to him teh way I did. It was beyond bad, I even took digs at his Christian faith-which I felt bad about.
Dr. Shoshanna posted that she believes he has feelings for me, and so do I. And yes, I think I have become obsessive about him, and I think it's the other way around also. He didn't just ask for my forgiveness, if you'll read his message you'll see he wants me to contact him.
Edited 12/30/2006 5:04 pm ET by purity2006
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