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Well ... that happened faster than
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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 8:40pm

I expected.

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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 4:05pm

Jen,

Thanks for your great empathy for Rebecca and sharing your story with her. All the comments on this post are excellent, but I think you may have helped Rebecca the most, just knowing that someone has experienced what you are going through gives great comfort. I'm sorry that you had the same experience as Rebecca. I have learned so much by following her love story these past seven months and hope that I will be wise enough in a relationship to listen carefully to the spoken words and watch carefully the actions and if they don't match have the courage to get out like you and Rebecca did.

Judy

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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 12:09am

I’m really sorry to hear this like everyone else.

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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:53am
Hugs to you, Rebecca. The learning about ourselves process can be soooo hard.
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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 11:01pm

Rebecca, joining a gym is a great idea. Not only will it burn off some energy but it will make you feel much better. I have links to a number of great strength training workouts and sites. Feel free to message me if you are interested.

Take care of yourself and remember that the reason you are surrounded by love is because you deserve to be loved.

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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 11:55pm
Hi Jen, thanks so much for sharing your story & your pain with me.

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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 11:59pm

Thanks so much SP. I know, there were a lot of flags all along, but i chose to not really pay attention. Lesson learned. But in reality, i wouldnt change how it went till the end. I wasnt really overly invested until I realized i was really falling, & that wasnt all THAT long ago (maybe Jan). & as soon as I realized it, I began making the decisions that i needed to see what & if, he was able to commit to. & thankfully I didnt waffle for months - b/c yes, I could have. & pretended I was content, just to stay in the relationship, b/c I really wanted it.

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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 12:00am
Yep

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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 12:52am

This might sound wacky, but I think it's great that you guys re broken up. It was obviously not going to work out; for whatever reason, he just isn't that into you- or even if he is, he can't let himself be, and from your perspective it's the same thing.

So now you're that many days close to the guy who WILL be "that into you". So while you're hurting now (and we hurt for you) just remember that if you'd waited another week to break up with Carlos, that's another week you were waiting to meet Mr Right. Now, your wait is getting shorter! :)

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