Well here I go again ...

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Well here I go again ...
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 10:14pm
Hi all -

Well I've made a "connection" with someone new that so far appears promising -

Lets see - I met him through Lavalife.com (I'm not getting any takers on match.com at all lately). He's somewhat older than me (by 13 years, but then again 13 is my lucky number). He lives close (5 miles away), he's from the same area of the country I am (close to Chicago), We had similar up bringings, we were both only children, we both have a lot of the same interests, and (very important) he doesn't want kids (neither do I).

So far he's been a complete gentleman - suggesting first to email each other a few times, and tonight we've had our first phone conversation. He wants to take things slow (and so far he means it) and just stay with the phone for awhile. So far I know a lot about his likes/dislikes/interests, about his family, I've seen his photo, etc. So, so far this is starting out well.

Lets hope it keeps going well! I'll keep you guys posted! :o)


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Registered: 07-05-2003
Wed, 07-23-2003 - 10:43pm
I wish you well. I hope this one works out for you (I've read your other posts). Be careful though not to spend too much time emailing/phoning before meeting - just so you don't build up false hopes and expectations. Good luck and I hope that all works out for you.
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Registered: 06-20-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 4:08am
Hey Gabi,

Sounds good so far. Wish you all the luck you deserve!

Just take the time you both need to feel comfortable enough for a personal meeting.

And a little personal remark: lavalife is where I met Rob and he is the best guy I ever had in my life, so perhaps that's the place where the real good guys are, who knows!? ;-)

Have fun and enjoy the time with him!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 8:28am
Best of luck - make sure you meet him soon - within a week - to make sure he doesn't just want a pen pal - and keep the conversations to 15 minutes or less - just tell him sweetly you have things to do - so you don't get attached before meeting and get your hopes up - there is a thin line between being a gentleman and being interested in only a phone pal. I believe taking things slow happens after you meet and click - i.e. not jumping in - but taking things slow about meeting for coffee for an hour - sounds a wee bit suspicious to me. Good luck!
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 9:56am
Oh Gabi I am so excited for you!! It is like I live my life through all of you ladies on the board and when I read all your posts, it is like I am being you and feeling what you feel for that moment. Ok, so yes...slow is good. Now, one thing to remember Gabi, you two need to meet pretty soon. Dont let him keep you on the phone for like months, especially if he lives 5 miles away. Now, I understand being shy and I understand trying to get a good feel of the territory, but if he takes to long to meet you and keesp you on the phone, then there may be a reason. Just something to keep in mind is all sweetie. I would say, this sounds promising though being that you two have so much in common. WOW! You both do not want kids, that is a real plus! Good. SO, let us know how it goes....eeeeeee!!!

IM so happy for you.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-24-2003 - 10:00am
Good luck! Let us know how the progress goes :)