Well, I think I killed this one.

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Well, I think I killed this one.
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 11:42am

Got an email from a guy that looked like an OK prospect. His profile was a little light, but I thought, hey, why not?

So we exchange a few emails...he tells me to ask anything I want to know...the only thing I put in that email that was the least questionable (but I wanted to get it out up front) was my political leanings...I just said, "I'm a registered Republican, but pretty liberal on social issues. What are your political leanings?"

I got a receipt - he read it Friday afternoon, and not a word since.

So it's good to get these things out in the open early, eh?

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 11:45am
PM - Who knows why people disappear. I just know if they are questioning their interest or if they are emotionally unhealthy (a big pct) - I want them gone pronto.
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:31pm
Err, emotionally unhealthy, as in a man who considers Walmart bags an actual fashion option?
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 2:14pm
LOL..yeah, nice photo, LG!!!
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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:28pm

you know is it really important to you on political stuff to be with a republican (im a very reg republican, but just wondering)? Email is not the best when its something as important as political/religious/relationship issues. I use it as a rule of thumb to not discuss serious issues with anyone via email.

(ok well maybe just one person, NGOL is the exception but we're pen pals now ;))

I think it was too much and I'm only saying that because I want to give you my honest opinion and from what Ive learned in dating/emailing.

Give him a chance to respond, if he doesn't, then well you know for next time!

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:41pm
The section on political views is one of the first I look at. No offense to any of you, but I've been a liberal since I was about 12 and cannot imagine myself with somebody of the conservative persuasion. It's a sharing values kind of thing. I think people who have fairly set beliefs generally are happier with those who agree with them. the mary matalin-james carville kinda thing is the exception.
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Registered: 05-31-2003
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:45pm

Ponymom,

I was thinking the EXACT same thing when I read LG's post, but you beat me to the punch. Great minds think alike, eh? :-)
Ann

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 7:56pm

Well, that's a good one to get out of the way, ponymom. Political differences can be a big deal to some people. I know a couple of friends that *always* want to talk politics. Sometimes I think they go home and watch CNN or Fox News 24/7! lol...

Eric

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Mon, 01-10-2005 - 10:18pm
I am a liberal and am meeting someone on Friday who is a conservative.
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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 2:10am

Heh... maybe he's trying to figure out what to say to you that will keep you interested. He might be thinking "well, she's a Republican, so maybe I should say I'm a fan of President Bush. But if she's got liberal leanings, then she might not like him, so maybe I shouldn't."

You've got him stuck in an infinite loop! LOL

Personally, the only political people I don't like are the ones who cannot accept that people are perfectly entitled to hold differing (ie, wrong) political opinions. They can't believe that anyone would think "like THAT" on (insert controversial political topic here).

I once was in a LTR with a woman who took this to extremes; not only was it vitally important to her that I hold certain viewpoints on certain issues, but I had to have them for exactly the "right reasons", and she would be furious with me if I didn't.

As far as your guy, pony, it sounds like he ghosted/flaked. Bummer. But better early than later, eh?

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Tue, 01-11-2005 - 8:15am

Its interesting how people can get emotional about stuff like that! to me it would just be another thing to have an interesting heated debate about. oh well; look at it this way; not much energy lost on your part. next time examine how important politics are to you though, because if they are not just putting them out there can seem a bit like they are your one and only priority and passion in life. remember; over the internet most things become slightly distorted from time to time!

Chris
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