Well, it was time....

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Well, it was time....
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 9:16am

Hello all,

I know this is probably going to come as a surprise to a lot of you, but Ricky & I have parted ways romantically. For the past few months, it had become increasingly clear that we weren't a good match for the long-term. If anyone wants more details, feel free to e-mail me at stacey22478@hotmail.com (there were a LOT of little things and a couple of big things that added up). But for now, all I really want to say is that it wasn't working. I started to realize that I wasn't as happy as I was early on in the relationship. I didn't post about it much here because I didn't want to take a chance that he'd come across it somehow.

But the good news is that it was pretty much mutual and we agreed that we were better off as friends. So we're going to keep in touch. We still have to get together to give eachother our things back, which will be sometime this week.

One kind of big thing is that I've been getting increasingly involved with the dance team, so just about every weekend, I'm out doing demos with my dance team members. And I'm having SUCH a good time. But it was getting to the point where I was hardly seeing him.

Anyway, I won't take up too much board space with details. Like I said, if you want "dirt" (lol), shoot me an e-mail. :)

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:07am
I'm sorry to hear that Stace... but check your email. :)
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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:10am

((((((CGUN))))))

You sound like you are doing great and I hope that is the case. Mutual breakups are, in a way, so much easier....sounds like you both could really talk and see what was wrong and realize what the best decision was, together.

I hope you and others realize that your story is absolutely an OLD success!!! You met a nice guy, you both hit it off, there were no games, you took things further to get to know each other...Even though the end result isn't the whole marriage thing, it is still a HUGE success.

Take time for yourself to be sure you are ok. Glad to hear the dancing thing is still a focus for you. Keep your chin up!!

XRG

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:20am

Wow, sorry to hear about the breakup! Regardless you guys seemed to have a very healthy relationship and it's nice when you can mutually agree to just being friends. Glad you have your dance team to keep you busy, cause I'm sure you will have some "sad" days but the Board is here to listen and encourage.

In time I'm sure you will be sharing future OLD or IRL dates!! Stay positive!!!

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:22am
Thanks guys! I am a little sad, but otherwise happy because now I can be available for the guy who IS right for me. This is why you date someone and don't jump into marriage right away - it took ten months for me to realize this wasn't the guy I wanted to marry. If I had made that decision at FOUR months, I would have wanted to marry him because it was still new and exciting. So I feel now like I've learned some important things about dating and that makes me feel great.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 10:27am
I'm happy if you are happy. Sounds like you two handled things in a positive manner. Good for you!
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 11:50am

Awwww, Stacey, I'm sorry to hear about you and Ricky; I was rooting for you guys. It sounds like you're handling it very well, though. And it sounds like you're very busy with your dance team, so there'll be no time for you to sit and mope around :) Good for you for realizing you weren't getting what you need from the relationship.

Keep smiling!!!

Holly

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 12:02pm

Thanks, Holly! :)

Just a quick funny story for you all to show you guys I'm so not moping - I was out Saturday night living it up at the country dance club and the band was playing the Dixie Chicks song "If I Fall You're Going Down With Me." I pretended to "fall" and a really cute guy stuck out his hand to help me up. (I think he thought I really fell). It was so fun!!! :)

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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 1:47pm
Aww, Stacey! De-lurking yet again to say I'm sorry! It sounds like you were pretty prepared for it, tho and that you again in your positive way of doing things are taking as well as you can. Isn't it nice when relationships can end that way and everyone still likes each other and still wishes the best for each other? And good for you for getting back out and having fun right away - not that I thought you'd mope too much but way to jump back into things! Oh well, back to Craig's List? ;-)

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 1:54pm
Well, Craig's List is Ricky's territory, so I don't want to post there. At least not right away. LOL I'm going to put a profile back up on match sometime soon, but I still haven't gotten around to getting internet at home yet. Soon, though - my roommate and I are going to get Comcast soon. I can't get on the dating sites at work, but I'm checking out some of the yahoo groups for singles. They're really no better than CL, but at least I can get back into giggling at some of the ridiculousness. :) I already left one group, though, because I saw the screen name of that nasty-smelly guy I dated before I met Ricky. Not gonna go there!!! ;)

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 2:21pm

It sounds like you made the right decision, and from your story about the night of being caught by handsome strangers, it sounds like you aren't going to have to wait long to to find the right person!!


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