well I've been dumped...

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well I've been dumped...
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 8:09am
That guy I was seeing since Dec-ish is now over. We were never really officially labeled but I certainly had feelings for him and now it stings a lot that we're not together. Basically I got the lame excuse, I'm not ready for a relationship. Ergo translation - you're not the one for me, b/c if you had been, I'd be ready. He was kinda cold about the whole thing but I suppose everything ends badly, otherwise it wouldn't end. So I bought myself some new shoes and had a manicure and life goes on. I'm not as pulled together as I'm making this post seem but the urge to cry isn't here at the moment. I'll take as many good days as I can. *hugs* ~Carol
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 9:32am
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.Take all the time you need to feel better, we are here for you if you need us.Hugs,Crystal
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 10:40am
I'm sorry sweetie. Boys can be such jerks sometimes!! If he didn't realize how great you are he's not the one for you anyways. Go out tonight and get some Ben and Jerry's and have a crying movie marathon with your best friend....I love those nights :) *HUGS*

Lindsay

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:04am
I'm sorry this has happened. That darn spring fever has turned into summer blues. I just hate once the temperature begins to rise some guys just flea. We are all here for you and I am glad you are doing the good things for yourself now. Keep it up but remember you will have to go through the motions of it all or it will sink to far in you and come back at the wrong time. We are here and do not mind giving our shoulder.

Marie

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:06am
Ben and Jerry's, a box of Kleenex and a good girlfriend are all a girl needs in tough times. =)
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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:09am
I recently ran into my ex-boyfriend and he was with the girl he cheated on me with. It was an all around up setting experience and I was very upset. A good friend gave me two quotes that I love. They are:

"No man is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry."

"Don't waste your time on a man, who isn't willing to waste his time on you."

Words to live by. The more I read these and re-read these the better I felt. Hang in there sweetie!

Michele

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:16am
((((((CAROL))))))

I am truly sorry things did not work out between you and the boy. I say boy, because only boys use the phrase, "I am not ready." Real men, are always ready for a relationship. If there were something more to it, he should have been a man and admitted it. Oh, well! You sound as if you are on the right track of recovery from this. New shoes and a manicure are just the ticket! Now, get together with your girlfriends and have a night of drinks and men bashing! lol Im sorry, it always works for me. Just remember that he must not be "the one", or he would have seen how wonderful you are and not had to question it at all. You are a great catch and the man who gets you is one lucky guy! So, chin up, chest out and smile....you never know who is looking ! lol

Gail

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:47am
AMEN SISTA!!! Those two quotes are like gospel. Yes, I will agree 100%!!!

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 12:04pm
I'm really really sorry. I have two more feel good suggestions - one is - find Haagen Dazs bananas foster ice cream (only if you like banana ice cream!!) - it is such a treat and you so deserve it. And, what I found re-focused and helped me was volunteering with children - I read to them at a local shelter once a week - it's such a tremendously warm and fuzzy feeling with the added bonus for me of being around other volunteers who of course also have a lot of warmth, etc. - so you get to do good and to meet new people - any similar volunteer thing can do it.

Carol, it will be ok - it will - thank G-d it was only since December and not years of your life. Cut yourself a lot of slack - you did all you could and you were all you could and now he has left you free to meet Mr. Right - and you will!!

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Tue, 05-20-2003 - 11:39pm
Oh so sorry about what happened Carol..Oh well he is not the "one" for u, there are other fishes in the ocean, who is more worth of your attention and love..Move on........ just shoes and a manicure? ..eh y didn't u buy yourself some set of great new clothes..im sure it'll work too...cheerup and smile you are loved!! ...jen