well travelled?

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Registered: 02-02-2005
well travelled?
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 11:46am

I've noticed that this seems to be a big thing in dating. People always area throwing out there, oh i'm well travelled, or someone might gush about a possible mate, he/she is well travelled, has been all over the world,lived in Europe, etc. I know everyone is different about what they look for, but why is it that people always think 'well travelled' is impressive? I personally could care less if someone is well travelled. To me it's not about where someone has been or where they're from, it's where they're at. I have met plenty of jerks who have lived in different parts of the world, travelled all over for work, pleasure etc. If anything i have found that these 'well travelled' people seem to think they are better than those who havent travelled much. Again, i dont think travelling makes someone better. I know plenty of people who havent travelled much who know a lot about other cultures, are smart, have great jobs. I guess I just dont get what is so fascinating about 'well travelled' lol. I have been all over the US, been to different parts of Europe, these experiences were great, but they havent made me who i am today. I wouldnt expect someone to find me more attractive because of this, just as I cant imagine ruling someone out because they hadnt left the US or even new england! Most peopel have been out of state these days...

LOL, i guess i'm just tired of looking at profiles that say, well travelled or people looking for someone who is well travelled, blah blah blah.

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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 2:49pm

Great! then i'm sure you appreciate all those other people out there who are putting travel stuff in their profiles (:

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Registered: 10-25-2006
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 4:35pm


I agree with you (corbeach)! It sounds totally snobby and judgemental when people boast about being well-traveled. I've traveled quite a bit but at this point in my life I choose not to travel.

I'm in a catch-22. I'd love to travel but don't want to leave my daughter and trek across the world. When she's grown I definately would. So, as I'm attracted to someone who straps on a backpack and hikes in the Andes - I will never be a match for one now.

So basically let those 'well-traveled' souls find each other now - even at the expense of family if that's their choice then perhaps when I'm ready, I'll meet my match and be able to travel more. But...It's tough - I wouldn't want to end up with someone who fits my lifestyle now and then when I'm ready to roam...realize I'm with a DUD!

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Registered: 02-02-2005
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 4:44pm

I guess it's not that i think it's snobby. I admit that i would want someone to be college educated...someone might call that snobby. I think travelling is a hobby for some, but it's something most people WANT to do. I think for most it's finding time to do it. If someone is going to brag about being well travelled...well I guess I personally could care less. I am not looking for someone who is well travelled-if they are great, if not that's fine too. There are soo many things about people that this is just not really on my list of worries/wants. I wonder why others care about this...but i guess i got my answers. I have travelled/would like to travel more, I'll do it with or without an SO. MOST couples take vacations every year...saying you like to travel is almost like saying you like to eat good food...most people do.

And i agree that i certainly DONT want someoen who is constantly travelling whether it be for work or pleasure. I was with someoen like this for a long time (he travelled a lot for work) and it became quite annoying.

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Registered: 10-02-2003
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 6:15pm
I don't think that is snobby at all! It is clear that like anything else we say in our profiles...there is a difference between someone who is truly well travelled and someone who wants to give the appearance that they are.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 6:43pm

Oh, no, that's definitely not the case, in my experience...I'm amazed at how many guys I meet who do NOT want to travel on their vacations--that or they want to do the exact same thing, like go to Vegas every year.

And way too many people don't appreciate good food, either, for that matter. Look at how popular places like Claim Jumper are (I don't know if you have that chain back east, but it specializes in huge portions of mediocre food). And it's apparently always PACKED (I went once on a date and would never go back, but that's what I was told when I expressed shock that a place like that had a 2 hour wait).

Anyway--I'm passionate about travel, so that's why it's important to me. Not everyone shares that passion and that's cool--I just would prefer to be with someone who does.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: corbeach
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 10:41pm

Ugh... I don't know what to say... I'm a person who travels every week for work. Do I consider myself "well-traveled?" I don't know... I mean I'm visiting a new state all the time and when I travel for pleasure, I go outside of the U.S. I don't think there's anything wrong with someone wanting someone else to enjoy in that pleasure. My ex-husband didn't like to travel and you know what? I couldn't imagine my life with a person who didn't like to. It's just too much. I want someone who wants to plan off-the-cuff vacations and jump on a plane to wherever. It's not boastful, it's realistic.


I hope that makes sense.


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