Went out with this guy last Saturday . .

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Went out with this guy last Saturday . .
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 10:08am

it was our first date and everything went really well, we went for dinner and drinks (spent 6 hours together, a lot of time for a first date). He was teasing me that he was never going to hear from me again so I called him on Sunday to say I had a good time and he got back to me on Monday. He asked when we were getting together again and we set a date for Saturday. He said that he was going to call me when he got home from work on Tuesday and didn't which didn't bother me. Now it's Friday and I still haven't heard from him which is a little weird cause we spoke a few of times last week before we met, I guess about 2-3 times.

I usually wait for the guy to call 1st after a 1st date to see if he's REALLY interested but I just felt that this time he was. It's now Friday and I haven't heard from him. I'm not calling him tonight, the ball's in his court but if I don't hear from him by tomorrow should I call or say screw it and let it go and make other plans and let him worry about it? Am I thinking too much into him not calling me yet? Sorry this is so long. Thanks.

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 10:52am

Hi-


That sounds pretty fishy to me.

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:00am
It's sooooo annoying. The old me would have called already too and am tempted to but hey . . . let him figure it out!
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:03am

If you set a firm date, then I wouldn't call him, but have a backup plan for tomorrow night in case he doesn't call by, say, 4 PM. If he calls you after that time, then I'd let him know that since you didn't hear from him all week, you made other plans.

Personally, I would not be concerned about not talking as much this week, but I *would* be concerned about his failure to keep his word about calling on Tuesday.

If he does call and you do go out, I'd keep that firmly in mind.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:06am

Just my little take on this.

If he calls now and you go out with him, you have made it okay for him not to follow up on his word. Chances are any further involvement with him will be irritating for you. Why go there?

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:11am

If you set a date for Saturday, I'd wait and see what happens at the appointed day/time.

If he doesn't show, then you move on to NEXT. Period. Unless he's like in the hospital or something, he's got no excuse.

Until then? I say don't worry about it. It's only been a single date.

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 1:59pm

<<...if I don't hear from him by tomorrow should I call or say screw it and let it go and make other plans and let him worry about it?>>

I wouldn't call. In my experience, if they're inetersted, they will call. Make plans for yourself and have some fun!