Were meeting soon, very nervous

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Were meeting soon, very nervous
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Wed, 01-25-2006 - 3:52pm

hey everyone, well the time is coming when i get to meet the man ive been googling over for the past month. We will meet in the middle of next month sometime for the first time and i am freaking out, lol. We met on a site and became friends first, than it became something more, we have so much in common and want the same things in life. I have seen pics of him and he has seen pics of myself, but people alwyas look different from there pics, most of the time, im just worried that im not what he expected because it seems in cyberland, people tend to dream up this fanatasy person, than when they meet it s a total downer. I even talked to him about this and he said at this point he doesnt really care what i look like in real life, he just wants to meet me. But things could change right.

He is flying for 5 hours to see me and i dont want his trip to be a waste of time.. I have abit of low selfesteem and dont think im the prettiest in the world, he seems to think so but those were awesome pics i sent him, lol. Im also abit overweight, and im assuming he could see that in the pic. He seems like the sporty type and i just cant see him liking bigger girls. But he talks to me like he is inlove lol. Im just starting to get really nervous, lol and not sure how to settle myself down, hehe. any comments or suggestions welcome

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 6:33pm

>>He is flying for 5 hours to see me and i dont want his trip to be a waste of time.. I have abit of low selfesteem and dont think im the prettiest in the world,<<

Some of the best advice I ever received was to stop worrying about the other person's emotions and reactions and focus on your own. Don't worry that *he* won't have a good time -- ask yourself when he is here if *you* are having a good time. Don't worry that he won't think you're pretty enough, decide if you find *him* attractive when you meet him.

I think we tend to get caught up so much in the idea of having someone like us and want us, that we put what *we* like and want on the back burner.

If you two have a good connection, it will be apparent when you meet. If not, it won't be because you're not pretty enough or not {fill in the blank} enough - it will be simply because the chemistry isn't there, or the timing isn't there.

You owe it to yourself to not put so much pressure on yourself.

Just relax, look forward to it, let yourself get to know him, and take it slow.

Just my 2 cents.

AJ, enjoying life with C.