What am I doing wrong ?
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|Fri, 05-17-2013 - 10:19am|
First a little background information. I am single and have been single for about 2 and 1/2 years. Prior to that I was engaged to a man (Kevin) who I had a very deep connection with. We were together for about 3 years all together but he passed away due to cancer.
I allowed myself to grieve and was able to move on after about a year.
So now I'm dating, but I also have some health issues. I have damage to some of my nerves, and I'm also quite spastic (stiff) at times.
I get lots of first dates, and some second dates but things don't seem to go any further. Or the ones that I am interested in aren't really. If I'm not interested those seem to be the ones who pursue me.
I get some guys who are interested, but they are focusing on sex and little else.
Not sure what to do. I don't put information about my health issues online because of safety issues. And I avoid focusing on it when I meet my date. But some do ask a lot of questions or are repelled.--- I have a brace on my hand, so its a bit difficult to pretend that it isn't there.
I went on a date last weekend and the guy texted me after saying that he was concerned that he wouldn't be able to take care of me. I replied that I wasn't interested in that, and didn't need it.
I was thinking more of another date, not jumping ahead to a future. Other guys have reacted similarly, just not as bluntly as this one.
So any advice ? I am optimistic, but not sure how to approach things; obviously something in my technique is off.
Thanks for everyone's advice in advance.