What are the signs?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
What are the signs?
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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 11:44am

It seems there's a post everday about someone being deceived on OLD. Whether it be someone with an old picture, or someone who portrayed themselves to be something different, it seems to be a common theme...


So my question to all of you is this:


Are there any signs to watch out for that would show a person may be deceiving you?


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Registered: 05-15-2004
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 4:18pm

I just look for inconsistencies. Stuff in their profile that just doesn't seem quite right. Maybe someone who says they are "athletic & toned" but their pictures say otherwise, or the body of their profile says they hate working out and doing any physical activity.

I am also suspicious of a profile where the person just seems "too good to be true". For example, they are open to dating any type of man, any body type, any income, etc -- and they make it sound like they love *everything* -- working out, cooking, cleaning, having a career, taking care of the kids, etc. I just feel like they might be trying for too general of a profile so they get more contacts.

Eric

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Sun, 08-14-2005 - 9:53pm

>>Are there any signs to watch out for that would show a person may be deceiving you?<<

Inconsistencies that I watch for:

1. When a person says they are looking for something long term but then have a lot of references to sex and how important it appears to be to them. I know someone who wants a LTR can also want sex, but of the men I have met who have had these somewhat sexual references in their profiles really wanted the casual encounter and I think they just write in their profile about having a building relationship or the LTR because it will lure in more ladies.

2. As Eric said, the person who states they are athletic, and yet you can tell by their pics that they aren't. But as I've said before on here, many men seem to believe because they *watch* sports that they are "athletic" and don't seem to understand that the category is *describing* their physical body, not their sports watching habbits.

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 12:36am

Hi Y'all,

C.S.I. the profile photos; if a person says they have been divorced for 5 years, and they have a wedding band on in a photo, when they state "my photos are recent". Old pics.

If they say they live in a house, look at photo backgrounds; apartment doors and windows are smaller and easy to spot as not a single structure home...think back to your own apartments in the past.

If there are children in the photos that appear young, and they state the kids are teens...once again, 'instant ancestors'--ie, old photos!

I had Many men tell me that they went to a gym often, maybe 3 times a week, but when it was time for us to meet, the tune changed drastically to "well, I have been out of the loop..." or "i hurt my back and..." uh oh...headed to Fibville, are we? And I am sorry, but lying is lying.

The reason I love Tall Man (1 of many!) is that everything about his profile is true, as I have come to know him, and that trust is a great basis!

Hang in there--open your eyes and Never ignore your Intuition!

truly,
Cupcake