What are women really looking for?
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| Sat, 04-23-2005 - 4:14pm |
I would love a female perspective here. What do you all (I could've said "yall" but I refrained) look for in a man?
I know this is a very general question, but I want you to be specific.
Imagine that through the marvel of modern technology there was such a thing as a "Man Store". You could go in and custom order your perfect guy. A week later, your new man would be ready for pickup (or delivery if you so choose). He of course would be madly in love with you. :-) What physical characteristics would you choose? Would you want him to look just like Adrian Paul? (lol, just kidding). Be shallow if you want. If you want him to have 6-pack abs, say so. What about personality? When you were ordering your man, any detail that you left out would be automatically chosen. So, if you did not specify a hair color it could be whatever.
Look forward to reading your responses.
Eric

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Here is my version of an "Adrian Paul"
-6'0 would be great if he were 6'5.
-Into sports.
-somewhat in shape.
-Successful.
-Caring.
-Loves children.
-Romantic.
-Has his own life, but can't wait to see me.
-great poker player.
-likes to joke.
-Good comminicator-not into head games.
-thrilled that I am his lady and is proud to show me off at any chance he can.
-Feels I am his best friend.
-Yes...great in bed too.
Is that too much to ask for?
Jodie
http://tickers.ticke
A Man Store would be ideal for me, if I could order up online. I don't shop - I buy! But you wanted an ideal. This is just fantasy, but here goes:
Reasonably nice looking.
Self-confident
Gets a kick out of me (i.e. sees my charm. Not many do!)
Quick witted
Appreciates quiet
Has a dog
Owns a car
Would rather shag than fight
Tolerant of faults
Attends my family functions with a smile (tall order!)
Gainfully employed
Doesn't have a problem being part of a twosome
Gets along with ex
Generous (meaning, not cheap. I can't do cheap, ever!)
Doesn't sweat the small stuff
Has a healthy attitude towards sex (my opinion: being good in bed has little to do with technique and lots to do with a healthy spirit and love of fun)
He's over 5'8" tall
Means what he says and says what he means
Am I a dreamer??? Sometimes I think so.
amjay
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Well, I wish us both luck, true!! Most especially about these two points:
Gets along with ex.
Means what he says and says what he means.
Physical aspects: 6'5 plus, beefier over too thin, dig bald/shaved with a trim van Dyke, blue eyes. Tats and piercings are fine.
Personality, etc: Smart, funny, affectionate, respectful.
Ahh let's give this a shot! Why not?
6'0 tall or more
Light eyes
blonde/brown hair
slightly muscular body (like not toooo defined) but not fat--NO BEER GUTS!!
patient
kind
good hygiene
no "girl-friends"
never been married
no kids and not sure if he wants any
good relationship with his parents, but not a mama's boy
likes cats
NO MOTORCYCLE RIDERS
not into extreme sports
intelligent and knows how to laugh even at stupid, silly things
doesn't take me for granted
is proud I'm on his arm
can't wait to see me at the end of everyday
makes his own decent money
communicates if there's a problem
doesn't play games to make me try and guess what he's thinking
isn't clinically depressed
There...I think that's all of it!
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Glad to hear it, more for lisa to choose from!!
Can you clarify what you mean by: no "girl-friends"?
Do you mean no female friends? Or no ex GF's that he still has a friendship with?
Either/or, Sisfox. I've had major problems in the past with my b/f's having "friends who are girls"....never worked out because these girls would always get in the way.
And as for the motorcycle riders, well that's always been a major bone of contention between me and my ex of 6 1/2 years. A bone that REPEATEDLY, AD NAUSEUM got in the way of our relationship, so I really hate them.
Whoever Lisa is, she can have my share of the motorcyle riders out there! hehe
Good post Eric, my dream man would be like this:
- He would be about 5'10" or 5'11", hair - dark short clean cut, no facial hair (love that smooth face!), not too thin or too thick. He exercises but doesn't have to every day.
- Takes pride in his looks (without being obsessed) and has good hygiene.
- He has good self esteem and a positive and generous nature. He is nice to children, the elderly, and people in general.
- College educated, well respected in his field, and likes his job.
- He strives to know and understand me better, he continues to make our life together better by learning and growing together.
- He's intelligent and enjoys conversing about a wide range of subjects from serious to silly. He isn't afraid to express his opinions and it doesn't bother him when our opinions are not the same as he accepts our differences and beliefs for the unique people in which we are.
- He accepts me for the person that I am and doesn't try to change me. I come first in his life.
- He likes to get out and do things together, and to try new activities together.
- Can be counted on to be there for me and for our family and friends. He's supportive, understanding, caring, kind, and thoughtful.
- He can roll with life's upsets and changes in plans.
- He is honest, truthful and not afraid to share his true thoughts and feelings when things are bothering him and with the positive aspects of life also.
- Most importantly he doesn't give up on things easily when times between us are challenging, but faces them head on and deals with them.
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