What are women really looking for?
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| Sat, 04-23-2005 - 4:14pm |
I would love a female perspective here. What do you all (I could've said "yall" but I refrained) look for in a man?
I know this is a very general question, but I want you to be specific.
Imagine that through the marvel of modern technology there was such a thing as a "Man Store". You could go in and custom order your perfect guy. A week later, your new man would be ready for pickup (or delivery if you so choose). He of course would be madly in love with you. :-) What physical characteristics would you choose? Would you want him to look just like Adrian Paul? (lol, just kidding). Be shallow if you want. If you want him to have 6-pack abs, say so. What about personality? When you were ordering your man, any detail that you left out would be automatically chosen. So, if you did not specify a hair color it could be whatever.
Look forward to reading your responses.
Eric

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Which also brings to mind women who say they want their SO to be their best friend, yet don't want them to have female friends. Well, how the heck is he supposed to KNOW how to be a friend, then?
She went to the restaraunt, got take out, and had a nice meal for them when he got back. The next day, she went and rented some kid videos and games, and she hung out with them. She also bought the mom a nice little gift basket with lotions, flowers, a cd of relaxing music, etc.
She's a class act, and I suspect there will be wedding bells!
This is in no way to say I am unhappy with my current boyfriend, but here is my "fantasy man:"
He'd be a bit taller than me, muscular, lightly tanned, and have short dark hair and a goatee.
I am going to say only this and then let it go, but I am offended by your opinion of people who have depression.
I don't think anyone meant to offend anyone by this thread. Not intentionally anyway.
This thread took on a life of what who our "IDEAL" is. That doesn't mean that if a person doesn't (or does for sake of arguement) have any of those traits.
It all boils down to preferences. I prefer someone who is not overweight, however that doesn't mean I haven't dated men that are.
That would be similar to saying "one does not prefer someone who has issues with depression". That doesn't mean that you are not dateable if you do. None of us are obtuse enough that we wouldn't consider someone on a case by case basis.
Jodie
Edited 4/26/2005 12:48 pm ET ET by truewild1969
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Thank you Jodie. FINALLY someone with some common sense. Exactly what I mean. I am not going to apologize for offending anyone who attacked me because I didn't attack anyone of you in my original post. And I won't expect an apology from any of you who jumped on the bandwagon, because your opinion of what my original post and my ideal guy was means nothing to me.
NGOL: Thanks for that deep analysis Dr. Freud, where do I send the check? ;-)
CGUN: I'd like to REITERATE AGAIN that my ideal man reflects MY experiences in "love" relationships and has nothing to do with the depressed people as a whole. My ex of 6 1/2 years was an undiagnosed depressed person who had so many issues it would make your head spin. And dealing with him day in and day out took its toll on me, so much so that I know in my heart I could not and WOULD NOT deal again with a depressed man in a relationship. One of my best friends is bi-polar, has depression and is on meds, and I do love her, and she's always been there for me. BUT, we are not romantically involved (me being hetero and all), so it's a different relationship she and I have than the one that my ex and I had, obviously. So again, it's MY experience; it's not like I read a bunch of articles on depressed people in relationships and made up my mind not to date any depressed men, I dated one FOR 6 1/2 YEARS and had MORE than my fill.
I hope this clears it all up for you guys.
If you feel you were "attacked" report the TOS violation.
Otherwise, accept that when you post to a public board, your ideas may be questioned or challenged.
Ok Ladies - time to settle the feud once and for all -- JELLO WRESTLE!!
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