What are women really looking for?

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What are women really looking for?
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Sat, 04-23-2005 - 4:14pm

I would love a female perspective here. What do you all (I could've said "yall" but I refrained) look for in a man?

I know this is a very general question, but I want you to be specific.

Imagine that through the marvel of modern technology there was such a thing as a "Man Store". You could go in and custom order your perfect guy. A week later, your new man would be ready for pickup (or delivery if you so choose). He of course would be madly in love with you. :-) What physical characteristics would you choose? Would you want him to look just like Adrian Paul? (lol, just kidding). Be shallow if you want. If you want him to have 6-pack abs, say so. What about personality? When you were ordering your man, any detail that you left out would be automatically chosen. So, if you did not specify a hair color it could be whatever.

Look forward to reading your responses.

Eric

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 6:54pm

I am not really picky my perfect male would be about

5'5 to 5'8 (I'm 5'5),
slim,
Short black hair,
Green eyes,
Good sence of humor,
Honest,
carring,
Loves the outdoors likes camping, fishing etc.

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 1:36pm

I'd like to place that order! lol

My specifications would include:

At least 5'10" but no taller than 6'4"
Athletic - muscular but not a bodybuilder
masculine features but handsome, square jawbone, any color eyes, any color hair, as long as there's hair! (a la Paul Walker or Brad Pitt)
No hair on chest or back, little on arms and legs
Facial hair kept to a minimum

Must be confident but not cocky, hardworking but not a workaholic, be ok with not having kids or having kids - i.e neutral in that aspect (I still haven't made up my mind)...
Must be intelligent, and a slightly left leaning independent voter.
Could be any profession, as long as he makes more than me...I may be independent, but I want a guy to take care of me!
Must be respectful of everyone - no talking down to people, or making fun of people
Must have a commanding presence, demanding respect without having to say anything
Must be able to dance - well - and love to do it
Must love sushi, and all other types of exotic food
Must cook me dinner at least twice a week
Must like to ski, travel, and explore new things
Must be naturally inquisitive and philosophical
Must love all animals, and never be able to hurt any other living thing
Must be outgoing and personable, be able to talk to anyone in any atmosphere and be likable
Must not be jealous
Must be independent and not clingy
Must never disrepect me in any way - in words or actions
Must be totally in awe of how lucky he is to have me, and show me often in small gestures.

I think that's it lol. If I think of anything else I'll come back and let you know.

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 1:57pm

I thought of more.

He would have to be kind.

Must be well-dressed, and clean cut

Tattoos are ok, as long as they're not visible in a short sleeved shirt and shorts...same goes for piercings...

Must be funny, but not overboard

Must have friends and family that I adore, because they are like him...

Ok that should be it ;-)

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 1:58am

He would be "cute", within my league of attractivness.

He would be between 6 months younger and 4 years older than I.

He would be between 1 inch and 6 inches taller than I.

He would return every one of my calls.

He would spontaneously call me "just to say hi"

Spontaneuous text messages and e-mails.

Caring, considerate- would consider me when he made plans and would let me know what he was doing, and want me included if I wanted to be.

WOuld liek to travel, and DOES travel

Can save money fo rthings he wants, and DOES

Wants to get married, have children, etc, we have similar dreams

He would be on Swedish, ENglish Scotish or german ( or any ocmbination of) ancestry, like me. Scotish owuld be first choice, extra points if FROM scotland... love teh accent

He would be enthusiastic about sex and about my pleasure as well as helping me learn how to pleasure him!

have a college degree- bachelors level with aspirations of graduate degree, or already has it, or earning it

no debt

variety of interests

a republican, but moderate

never hits

does not yell... much

makes me and us a priority

has a good job and high ambitions and a good salary

athletic, and wants to do athletic things with me! (help! tryin to loose weight!)

no food issues!

has a somewhat positive relationship with fmaily----- or excelletn with great green acres patirdeg fmaily, brady family roots

love sthe outdooors

wants to get married outside, in montana or colorado or wyoming

loves me madly...

listens to me and helps change for teh better

would be a GOOD parent, similar parenting styles, participatory

ooooh im falling in love with him already....

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Registered: 01-25-2000
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:58am

Six figures and seven inches.

That's all I ask.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:40pm

Biggeranita said-"Six figures and seven inches.

That's all I ask."

My girlfriend got that along with 3 years of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. Be careful what you ask for.

Jodie

 

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Registered: 02-17-2005
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 5:06pm


Okay, here goes..

tall (but not too tall cause im only 5'2)
dark hair w/green eyes
in shape, but no gym freak either
active: does sports, etc.
adventurous nature/outdoorsy: likes camping, hiking, biking, boating, fishing, etc.
very finacially stable, good with money, not cheap
has good family values, wants kids (2 to be exact)
loves travelling, exploring new places (doesnt need to be fancy gateways; a weekend away hiking in vermont will do!)
loves to experiment with food (and with other things aswell, if you know what i mean :-)
romantic but not cheesy
RESPECTFULL, TRUSTWORTHY AND HONEST
likes to play poker, go out with me, but also stay home and cuddle to a movie!
likes to dance, and is good at it!
FANTASTIC IN BED!!!
has nice friends (no wild alcoholic frat boys!!)
very important: HAS A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOUR!!
has to be street smart
has to be handy around the house
has to like reality TV (or at least not complain if I watch it).
Be patient with me
Be able to surprise me, or be spontaneous
be good looking, but not SOOOO good looking (I dont want other chicks going after him!)
he has to like cats and dogs
have a car (preferably a convertible BMW...but anything with a sunroof will do!)
has to have nice muscles, especially arms and back
has to dress nice
be romantic, loving, tender, sweet, genuine, generous, intelligent, attentive, funny, good looking, rich, witty, spontaneous, etc.

finally...
A man who WORSHIPS THE GROUND I WALK ON!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 8:03pm

Loves children; strong devotion to family and friends; Intelligent, ambitious, decent job (at least $35,000 per year - which is good for the area I live in), funny & charming, loves movies, music, art, museums. Romantic and spontaneous with a great memory for special dates, anniversarires, etc. Extremely honest; 100% faithful.

Physically - between 5'7 and 5'11; brown or blond hair (nice hair too - not thinning too much); reasonably good shape with great shoulders and arms (six pack not required though - don't really care for that personally); great teeth and smile; blue or brown eyes; nice lips (not too thin).

Okay...I could go on and on...weird thing is my ex-husband had all those physical traits - almost all of the personality ones too - except the honest and faithful part - I would trade a lot of the physical traits away for someone with all of the first grouping in a heartbeat - looks fade.

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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 1:04pm
Oh thats easy! I am a very outgoing person. I love sports, friends, family, kids, etc. So I would love a man to keep up with me. One who will sit and watch college basketball with me or get out there and play against me. I want a man who is simple. A man who can hang with my friends or his and just have fun no matter what we are doing. A man that can make the most dull situation interesting, whether it be him joking around or finding an activity for everyone to do. I am not into the whole muscluar scene but i do want a man that take pride in the way that he looks but at the same time will get dirty (which i think is sexy). I am a total country girl, so i like the cowboy type that is gentle and kind but they still know how to handle themselves against someone if the situation arises that he has to take that route.
I love blue eyes that look like the ocean. I like tan skin and dark hair. But really that stuff doesn't matter that much to me. I look for the personality with someone and whether we have a connection or not.
So if i am being too nosey you can tell me but why are you so interested? And what do you look for in a girl?
Look forward to your response! Have a blessed day!
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Registered: 09-09-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 1:59pm

I love a man who's into sports and is into keeping in shape/athletic. Being in my 40's - when I was doing OLD, alot of the men seem to have let the "athletic" part go...so it was real important that in order for him to be a "keeper" he had to be in shape. Also - I wanted someone who was my age but was "young at heart". I'm kind of a wild-child so I needed someone who still loved to "party like a Rock Star" (lol), but also be totally responsible and ethical - have a good heart and a great sense of humor. I am lucky in that I finally found that man on Yahoo Personals! :)

Maryanne0424

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