What to do?

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Registered: 05-28-2005
What to do?
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:56pm

I have been emailing a man daily for 4-5 days. He called me and we had a great chat....and seemed to get along well. He sent me an email the next day (yesterday) asking if I were free on Thursday or Friday evening to meet. Prior to this we discussed meeting on the phone.
I got back to him last night and said that either night is ok for me and suggested a time and a few places.

He did not get back to me today? He emails me from work during the week. I thought maybe he'd call tonight when I didn't see an email from him. This doesn't fit the pattern of emails that we have been having.

My gut says he's changed his mind. Would you all say the same thing?

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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: kerstynclare
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:30pm

Hi Kersty,

Nope, I would say he is casting more lines into the water, to see what he catches with the bait. Hang back now; he can contact you. If you get a chance to make Another date, DO so! Never play roulette with a weekend; ie, if someone asks, accept, and then this guy will see that you are not gonna sit and wait Juuuust in case the Hooters girl volunteers to come over Friday night, with hot wings and beer. That is called the BBD (bigger/better deal), and Honey, aint Nothin' out there better than You, so roll on and let him catch up, If he can!

So many men (and women!) get overwhelmed with the quantity of people to date and kinda go overboard on it, contacting and shmoozing left and right. Some men think they are Matt Damon in a Brad Pitt suit, and they can chat with many women they would Never approach in a bar, for fear of rejection...hey, if there are a few Lies in their profile...height, hair, weight, job....just communicating with many,the increase in "luck' is dazzling to them!

Roll on, Little Rock, he knows how/where/why to contact you, if he wants to. A rolling stone gathers more dates.

Ding! Next!

Good luck!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:46pm

Hi kerstynclare...


Though I'm a staunch believer in gut feelings, etc., I would say give him a day or so. Something might have happened in his personal life and he's gotten caught up in it... Give him another day or so.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 6:57am

Cupcake....I totally hear you. I'm not new to this but I just don't understand a man who would make a plan to meet you and then *ghost*.....we'll see if he fits into this category.

He is new at this and I do betcha that he is feeling a bit of an ego boost by the responses he's getting....

Hmmm

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:02am

Kerst-


It has always been in my experience that anytime there is a change in behavior, the experience has come or is coming close to being over.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:05pm

Well, he wrote back today....an extremely brief email just confirming if tomorrow night is ok to meet.

He's either being cautious or he is just following through because it's the *right* thing....

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:12pm
patience. girl patience.. keep setting up dates... and now you can go out w/ him since he gave you ample time.
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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:31pm

You wrote:

 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: kerstynclare
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:43pm

Hi Sp,

Thanks, I often think my sense of humor is what gets me through this life! I am glad it made you smile. :)

And, I swear, Hallmark-talking Insurance man from last summer Really believed this was gonna happen to him. I WISH my last words to him had been "would you like hot, mild, or bbq?"! I think that some people feel that if they have found You, and you are true cool and pretty cute, well...shoot, maybe they can do even Better?! Faulty logic at best. Why not be thrilled that you found someone you like a lot, and go from there?

Life is not perfect, but we can always make choices...such as Ranch or Blue Cheese....

lol always!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 05-28-2005
In reply to: kerstynclare
Thu, 06-09-2005 - 6:33am

Well, Surprise, surprise......it seems my email was acting up and he DID write to me on Tuesday morning. I just received it last night (Wednesday)at 10:00. Very strange....gmail is usually ok, but last night it goofed up 2 of my emails .... from two seperate people.

Now I understand why the short email last night. He thought I was ignoring him and not getting back to him. I wrote right back to clarify......He seems really interested in meeting me..Yeah!