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| Tue, 06-13-2006 - 2:37am |
I've been reading this board for a couple of weeks, but this is my first time posting because I need some advice.
Here's my story (I'll try to keep it short): About three months ago I posted my profile on an online dating site that is for people of the same faith. I chose this site because I've hard to meet people who share the same beliefs that I do in the state that I live in. Anyway, I met someone on this site and I began e-mailing and IMing him, which lasted for about a week and a half. We then started talking on the phone, which also lasted about a week and a half before he asked me out and we met in person. I know that seems like a long time to get to a first date but here's why, this guy lives about three hours away from me, and he teaches at a boarding school that requires him to stay and watch the dorms every other weekend. The first meeting went well, we went to the movies and and the end of the date he mentioned that we should definitly get together again, to which I agreed. Unfortunatly this was the only time that we were able to meet because he had to work every weekend from then until the end of the school year. He finished teaching at the end of May and then flew back to where his family is (another state) for the summer to work for his parents (they have a farm) beacuse he couldn't find a summer job in the area where he works.
Anyway, here's where it gets confusing, after he had been home for a couple of days he e-mailed me letting me know that he would like to keep in touch over the summer and then gave me his number again just in case I had lost it. I called him a couple of days later and we talked for about an hour and at the end of the converstion he said he would call me sometime later that week, but he wasn't sure when. This was almost two weeks ago and he still hasn't called. This is where I'm confused, has he not called because he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, or is he just busy with his family (he has a big family and he hasn't seen them in a year)? If he dosen't want to talk to me anymore then why did he give me his phone number again? My last question is, should I call him again or just let it go? Some advice would be appriciated, thanks.

Hi, I'm going to make a wild guess that the guy doesn't know his own mind. He wanted you to call him, but calling you back may not be a big priority.
I wouldn't call him, but I would e-mail a chatty, "how's it going" note (not too long) and see if he replies. If he doesn't... Well, I'm sure there are other guys.
Hi,
I'd call him. What's the worst that can happen, he'll either take your call or he won't. If he does, you could ask him what happened. Is he really busy, did he misplace your number, etc.
When I was doing the internet dating thing, (I went on a ton of dates and met four wonderful guys, one who has been my serious boyfriend for a while now), I decided early on not to play any games, if a guy didn't call me when he said he would, I'd call him once and that would be that if he didn't call back.
Good luck and remember like my mom says there's plenty of fish in the sea keep looking for the right one!
~A~
I'd say the ball is in his court - you already called him. Who knows why he hasn't called - there's probably a touch of 'out of sight, out of mind' going on; you only had one date. I would pursue other dating opportunities and if he calls, great, if not, you've already moved on.
Coolas