What do his actions say?

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Registered: 04-11-2003
What do his actions say?
Fri, 07-27-2012 - 7:28pm

I met with a guy for a first date after a month of text messaging. He has been texting even after the date.

Today he asked me if he could date me to which I responded "Yes".

What confuses me is that he still logs on and chats on the online dating site.

Is he just looking to date casually? Is he a player? He hasn't talked about meeting up again yet.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 07-28-2012 - 8:51am

When you say he logs on & chats, does that mean he chats to you?  That would explain why he has to log on then.  The thing is that after one date, you can't expect him not to be dating other people.  I would always assume that both are free to date others unless you have had a specific discussion about that.


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Registered: 01-30-2012
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 3:31pm

If you know he's logging on, you must be logging on too, right? I agree with the last poster that you should assume you're both free to date other people until you have an actual discussion about exclusivity. "Dating" is too vague a term to denote anything very serious. And if he genuinely wants more than that, you probably wouldn't have to question whether or not he does. Just have fun with it for now, that's when the best things happen.