What do you consider a "turn on"?
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What do you consider a "turn on"?
| Wed, 08-17-2005 - 11:10am |
We have talked about things that we find in profiles that turn us off...such as elusion to sex, body type etc.

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Actually, so far, I like the ones who make reference to passion, warmth, affection, etc. I also like that they list honesty and things like that because then one has to *assume* that they have the same qualities. haha.
Sara
I almost never look at height, weight, job, or income because it really doesn't matter to me. I really just skim that section.
I try to just read the actual written words he writes about, if they are funny, and seem to be into the same things and I find them attractive from the picture I'll write to them.
Edited 8/17/2005 11:53 am ET ET by sniffle_sally
You may find, as many of us have, that once you actually start meeting people, references to passion, etc. mean they are basically looking for sex...and that if someone makes a big point about refering to themselves as honest, it's a good bet they are not!
Sheri
I look at the height because that is important to me, and also make sure they do not smoke, even occasionally, blech. Then I see if they have children or want more children (I want more). Then I read the profile and see if I like what they have to say about themselves. It's a turn on if the profile is interesting and funny. Then I read what their match is like and see if I fit in with what they are looking for. Then if all that works for me, I save the profile. I'm not ready to go full blast OLDing, but I have several men saved and might consider sending them an email soon (I sent one so far, I'm going slow).
The money doesn't matter, because someone could make a ton of money and have a boat load of debt, or make a more modest living but have savings and assets. Financial stability is important but you can't tell that from a salary amount. I don't care about the profession, I care about their lifestyle and if they are a workaholic, but you can't necessarily tell that from their profile settings either. I do look at hobbies, most things are turnons but any reference to a lot of video game playing would be a turnoff.
That we appear to be on the same page AKA looking for the last first date basically leading to marriage and kids.
Lifestyle is huge and big lesson learned from my last relationship. Someone who is similar to me (but not a mirror) AKA loves movies, theater, wine and wine tasting, long dinners, restaurants and making dinner. Someone who likes to hike or go to the gym, likes weekend jaunts out of the city. Someone who takes pride in their home and is clean. Someone who writes with charm, wit and humor is a plus. But honestly, it all boils down to chemistry in person, without it you have nothing, ha!
What turns me on about a profile is when they've actually given some thought to the text and actually write stuff that conveys a sense of their personalities (I've found this is pretty rare). I like to get the sense that the guy lives an interesting life.
Sheri
I agree – I look for that too. I like a wordly kind of man and who can communicate and is a bit philosophical. Also if his intro letter to me was given some thought and he read my profile.
SP
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