What do you consider a "turn on"?

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What do you consider a "turn on"?
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 11:10am

We have talked about things that we find in profiles that turn us off...such as elusion to sex, body type etc.

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:21pm

I know you are probably right....most men that have that (passion, etc.) down may want *only* sex, but then a few may just want passion in their lives along with everything else, no? Maybe I am just thinking too simple. LOL.

Sara

 
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:23pm

All that (most) men have to do is see the word "Passion" and parts of their body are responding by going...."Booyahhhh!"


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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:38pm
Well Jodie, I hafta admit that the first thing I look at is the height too;). I'm 5'7" and my biggest turn on is a guy who's just slightly taller than me when I wear my favorite DATE outfit (jeans and 3" boots). Then I'm not too picky about the other stats except for the smoking thing. I quit 4 months ago and I can not be with a smoker now. No way.
His words are really the turn on. I like someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously. I like wit and someone who's even slightly self-deprecating. The biggest turn on for me is someone who is artistic. Musicians, artists, writers, photographers...no actors though. I'm a creative person and need a like soul to inspire and inspire me. The next big turn on for me is someone who is well-travelled. People who embrace other cultures are curious, adaptable and adventurous. I'm also drawn to guys who've achieved a higher level of education. I look for the things we have in common first then unusual or different interests that pique my curiousity.
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 1:52pm
I too love self-deprecating wit. I definitely am attracted to a well-written, witty profile (rare, I find). I've read so many generic ones, where it's obvious very little effort or thought were involved, that the witty ones really stand out.
I also look at height, primarily because so many guys lie. If he says anything under 5'10, I immediately subtract a couple inches.
And the kids section is important too. I stay clear of anyone who has "3 or more" listed or who wants kids (I don't, plus I'm 43, do the math. That said, I'm amazed how many guys who "definitely" want kids contact me. Proof once again how few men actually read profiles).
I've learned to pay more attention to the age range they're looking for because apparently I'm "too old" for a lot of guys my age - you know the type, the ones looking for 21-30 year olds.
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:23pm
I also look at height first, because I like a man in the 5'11"+ range but I won't discount them if they are shorter. Hopefully, they have a close up picture so I can see their eyes. A twinkle in their eyes and enjoying traveling, reading, weekend trips, dancing, are close to their children, motorcycles and being spontaneous to name a few, are things that attract me. Dressed neatly is a big turn on for me too, especially in motorcycle leather.
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:48pm
LOL no kidding :-)
 
 
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 2:50pm
Oh...I get the "definitely" wants kids replys too. I'm 45! no kids. Sheesh!
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 3:04pm
I have a question. There is a guy on yahoo that is over 40, has no children and says he wants children, but his match should have no children. Does he really think he's going to meet someone that has no children but wants children? Do you think he put that as his ideal but is open to someone with children? If not, he's really limiting his options don't you think? His picture and everything in his profile is good other than that. I can see if he has no children and wanted no children, but he wants children so he says. I would think if you want children you'd be open to someone that already has children as long as they are willing to have more too.

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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 3:08pm

My preference is to meet someone with no kids and yes I want kids. However I have dated men with “one child” if he’s someone I have a lot in common with��so we all have preferences but that doesn’t mean it always works out that way. I’d write him – you have nothing to loose right?

SP

PS Keep in mind preferences are not necessarily deal breakers.




Edited 8/17/2005 3:10 pm ET ET by small_peanut2005
 
 
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Wed, 08-17-2005 - 3:13pm
That is what I was thinking, it might be just a preference.

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