What do you think?

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Registered: 10-23-2003
What do you think?
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Sat, 12-30-2006 - 5:38am

I've been e-mailing a guy I met from match for a month, for the last couple of weeks we've been talking on msn messenger. He's so far a nice guy, funny, and really shy!!!! However I've enjoyed talking to him and getting to know him a little. We're planning on meeting up on new years day (we would have done it on new years eve, but we both have plans).

He told me a couple of days ago that he's intrested in me...as far as what kind of intrest....I'm not for sure. We were talking about dating and guys being intrested in girls vs. versa (in general). I made the comment that just about everyone finds all kinds of people intresting..but when it comes to a guy being intrested in a girl he isn't intrested in every girl, unless he wants to get to know her, hang out and go from there. He said there is one, I said well have you asked her out...he said no. Why not? she just wants to hang out (I took that as he's hung out with her before) so I said well just keep hanging out with her and maybe she'll change her mind, he then said I haven't hung out with her...haha sorry...to sum this up..he told me that he was intrested in me. I was like cool.

I'm just going to play this cool, I mean I know he says he's intrested in me now..but he doesn't know me and doesn't know what I look like etc, etc.

My thing is I'm just scared, because I've had bad luck in the dating department but part of me wants to give this a shot. We're both still on match.com and I was on there the other day..looking at who's viewed me and I saw he was on there (showing has he viewed me recently). What does that mean? and I wander why he would view my profile again?

Any thoughts. Sorry this is soo long and sounds like it's all over the place.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 11:09am

I would not even give this another thought until you've at least met in person. You have no idea if you're going to hit it off in person or not so it's really premature to be thinking this way.

Of course you're both still on match--why wouldn't you be? You haven't even met yet, yet alone gone out long enough to discuss and agree to exclusivity! And maybe he wanted to re-read what you said in your profile--people do that all the time.

Sheri

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 4:33am

thanks for your reply...you're right....that's what I was trying to tell him..it's like how can he be intrested in me when he doesn't know me and doesn't know what I Look like....and I don't know if we'll hit off in person like we seem to online...lol.

I wasn't implying it was not cool of him to still be on match..as far as I'm concerned he can do whatever he wants...just like me..when we meet and it works out...well then that's something that can be brought up much, much later down the road...my question was...if he's already looked my profile once..why again?

Thansk again

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 10:01am
Many people reread profiles that's not unusual. When you are on an online dating site you are reading a lot of profiles so sometimes you have to reread profiles. I don't see him looking at your profile again as some huge red flag of anything.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 10:12am
Yeah, maybe he just wanted to refresh his memory about something you said. I wouldn't read anything into him looking at your profile again.

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