What Does Anyone Think?
Find a Conversation
What Does Anyone Think?
| Sun, 08-06-2006 - 9:35pm |
I met a guy for a lunch date today. We'd been messaging and talking on the phone for a couple of weeks. He was very nice, concerned about my allergies (I almost cancelled the meet at the last minute), attentive, etc., during the meet. When we said good-bye, he said we'd have to continue chatting. I didn't see any obvious red flags, unless one counts staring and smiling a lot. He told me I was really cute. At any rate, to explain more, when we were walking-out, he put his arm around me. Then when we said good-bye, he hugged me and pinched my flesh on my hip bone. I'm pretty sure he was feeling my fat content. lol Then he was holding my hand, almost cheek to cheek, saying something about his car, trying to make me feel better about mine. He even kissed my hand! lol At first, I wasn't too taken aback by all this, but in retrospect, it seems like a bit much for a first meet. Even if he's the most affectionate man in the world, it still seems a little overboard to me. I didn't really suspect him of being a "player" but if he was one, he certainly seemed to have the game down pat. I'm kind of "immune" to people emotionally when I first meet them so it didn't phase me too much. However, I got to thinking maybe I should ask other's perceptions because I might be missing something. Thanks.

I think if that had been me, I would've felt as though that was a bit too touchy-feely for a first meet. That's just me though. I generally don't want much physical contact initially, and it would strike me as being a bit presumptuous on his part to assume it's okay, even if things did appear to go splendidly.
Flirting, eye contact, smiling- great. If I'm interested, I'll likely go in for a hug as we're saying goodbye, but that's about it. Don't be touching my hips or whispering in my ear pal! :)
I tend to agree with happyjustme, my feelings exactly.
Well, it definitely got off to on an interesting start but don't give the guy the boot just yet. Feel it out and go out with him one or two more times and see how his behavior is...if he really comes on strong or gets even more touchy-feely you'll definitely know if he's just looking to get you in bed. People are funny--don't read too much into it. If he does something way out of line, you'll know it.
Keep us posted on this--this is interesting!
I'm with happyjustme.
I don't like touchy stuffs on the first few dates. A hug is all I can do.
Pinching, whispering etc....is a bit creepy for me.
April