What does he want??

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Registered: 10-07-2005
What does he want??
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Fri, 10-07-2005 - 12:40am
I just met a guy online, he loves my pictures, thinks I am hot. We finally had a date, turned out it was fine. He said he wanted to have 2nd date with me. However, he seems never had time with me, we do not talk much(either from the phone or online chatting) He always seems busy, he said his work is very busy. (his work is not a regular 8 hours kind.) He always online late or no online, no calls sometimes. He makes me think whether he really likes me or just want to get me in bed. At same time, he keeps saying he likes me, he wants to kiss me and hold me. (One thing, he already showed his every thing in front of his webcam before we met) He didn't anything bad at our first date because I told I don't want to before we met. I told him I can't have sex with someone who is not my boyfriend, he said he wants something more than just sex. From my past experiences, I know if a guy likes a girl, usually often calls her or ask her out, or do something to impress her. But he does not. I am so confused. I don't know what I should do.......
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 12:59pm
Drop his web cam ON him. LOL


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 8:38pm
drop him AND his Johnson on their heads.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 6:26am
I am not expect in the love/dating department, but it has been my experience that if you give him space he will be back..I would just play the unavailable card as well and see what happens
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 7:40am

Why should she even waste her time playing silly games with this guy?

Do you really think someone is respectful that pulls out his penis and waves it around on a web cam before you even meet them in person??? Sounds like someone just after sex...and I'd be saying NEXT!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:27am
Run, block him, and don't respond to anyone else who behaves in a similar manner. Yuck! Plus, could he be married? Only online late at night, always busy...red flags to me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 11:47am
It is like being a grade school...you know if a boy pulls your hair, he likes you. Boys never do grow up...thier toys just get bigger and more expensive. If she really likes him (which that is what it sounded like); then games we must play.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 12:17pm
LOL great...another man disrespecting women and we should encourage it. WAHOO!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 12:27pm

dayaftertomorrow,

The consensus is absolutely right. I am a man and I want to reiterate—-Showing you his love truncheon on a webcam before you have met is normal behaviour for an ABNORMAL MAN. He isn’t worth any more of your time. Trust me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:39pm
I am not saying encourage it, but if she really likes him then she will have to play the game. That is the only way to find out what he really wants. If he truly is just looking for sex...he wont waste his time with games; there is someone out there just looking for sex like him. BUT, if he does really like then he will but in the effort to show that.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 10-08-2005 - 10:50pm

Does the fact that he exposed himself to her on cam change your mind? I'm wondering if you might have missed that point in her original post... I have a feeling you might have. ;o)