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What gives?
| Sun, 07-23-2006 - 11:43am |
I met someone online over a month ago and we have amazing conversations (text, im and phone). We've talked about nearly everything there is to talk about and both feel that we have a great connection. I easily get frustrated though because he'll say "I'll call tomorrow" and then doesn't. A couple days will go by without me hearing from him. How are we supposed to get to know one another if he won't "talk" to me at least every other day?; he's planning on coming to visit for the first time in August. He did admit that just because we don't talk everyday doesn't mean that he's not thinking about me every day. I guess what ticks me off is that he doesn't call when he says he will and of all the times I've called him he's only answered once. Should I be frustrated?

Have you met in person?
Umm, she SHOULDN'T be a priority to him at this stage.
Uh, no, it does NOT give men a pass! Have you actually READ the book?? If anything, the message to women is to NOT accept bad behavior, and to move on from men who aren't treating them like they want to be treated!
Edited to add: If you don't like the book, you don't, no skin off my nose--but it seems to me you're missing the point of it.
Sheri
Edited 8/1/2006 12:20 pm ET by northwestwanderer
For me, it's not that it gives guys the pass but more just the expectation of women and when he "should" be into her.
Yes, I'm very familiar with the show and the book ;-)!
But him being a comedian and TV writer doesn't mean the book doesn't have value. His other book on breakups is excellent...and funny.
And as I've said numerous times on these boards (so apologies for repeating myself ;-)), IMO the catch phrase isn't really the point of the book (but what else was he going to call it, given the show?). Really, the title should be something like "He's just not right for you" ;-). The point I take from it is that if you're happy with how you're being treated, then great! It doesn't matter how often he's calling or seeing you or whatever, so long as you are HAPPY with it (key point). But if you're NOT happy, then stop making excuses for the guy and move on to someone who will treat you as you want to be treated.
And FWIW I agree with you about the OP.
Sheri
Its hard when you haev someone in your mind as what you "expect" them to be - but hanging around her the past couple motnhs I have learned that people arent always who them SEEM to be ... or who we THINK they are.
Please dont get so wrapped up on someone on line whom you havent met. It will only lead to you being hurt.
R~