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| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 4:17pm |
Ok, I posted here last week questioning when is it appropriate for the 1st kiss. Well here is the story now.
I have been speaking to this guy from match for the past month. We met twice and we both seemed to really like one another. He was sending cute emails texts and Im's after and between each meet. Then he had to cancel last min. on our Saturday date witch was fine, because it was originally set for Friday but i asked to change it because something else had come up. Now, I have not spoken to him sense sat night. It is now Wednesday, and still no word. I am confused by this because he acted really into me and now nothing....WTF? I have not invested anything into this so its not that I miss him or anything, just simply baffled by the way communication just stopped. I haven't called or sent any messages either, but he is the one that said he would contact me. Do I send him an email or text just to see what’s up, or do I just let it go? I don’t mind if he met someone else or anything like that but I am not one that can stand non-closure to matters, it just bugs me. Any suggestions?
I have been speaking to this guy from match for the past month. We met twice and we both seemed to really like one another. He was sending cute emails texts and Im's after and between each meet. Then he had to cancel last min. on our Saturday date witch was fine, because it was originally set for Friday but i asked to change it because something else had come up. Now, I have not spoken to him sense sat night. It is now Wednesday, and still no word. I am confused by this because he acted really into me and now nothing....WTF? I have not invested anything into this so its not that I miss him or anything, just simply baffled by the way communication just stopped. I haven't called or sent any messages either, but he is the one that said he would contact me. Do I send him an email or text just to see what’s up, or do I just let it go? I don’t mind if he met someone else or anything like that but I am not one that can stand non-closure to matters, it just bugs me. Any suggestions?

I would just let it go. If he wants to go out again, he'll contact you.
I guess I just don't feel that after only 2 dates, there's any sort of "closure" necessary. He may have decided after a couple dates that he didn't feel the two of you were a good match, or maybe he met someone else. This is part and parcel of the dating process, unfortunately.
Sheri
Bummer, hoping for a good first kiss dating story!
Ok,
So I took everyone’s advice and I just let it go. Well guess who calls me on Friday, just one week after cancelling our last Saturday date. So he tells me that he is so sorry that he had just a crazy week and he wanted to go to the beach with me on Sunday. I blew him off; I went to the beach alone with my book (angles and daemons, great book!!) and had a great day by myself. Well he called me Sunday night but I missed his call and then he sent me 3 text messages around 8pm but I didn't see them until after 11 because I don’t keep my phone by my side all the time. So I unintentionally blew him off again. Well this morning he came up on my AIM messenger and was asking what I was doing later after I explained to him that I didn't receive his messages until late last night. So tonight I am going out with this guy. The funny thing is that original excitement of meeting him again has passed; now if am just kind of like well ok I guess so. So in any case I just wanted to keep you guys posted and i will let you know how it went tomorrow:)
Michelle
Keep your options open and date others.
I would just give him a call or send a message "Hey, how was your weekend, etc." if you are interested in seeing him again. It's possible he could be thinking the same thing about you!
Okay, just read the other posts -- so how was the date??
Edited 8/14/2006 1:29 pm ET by tstephnic
Ok, yes i am laughing about this because really there is nothing else to do. The online guy that i have been talking to you all about here, has just sent me the following message: "M call me when you leave work tonight, i am so sorry but i may not be able to make it tonight. I will try though!" Ok, whatever...at this point i dont care if he can make it or not and i really dont care if i do see him again. So yea ill call him when i leave work and i will oh so nice about him cancelling and the next time he calls i just may be busy with the new guy i met this past friday:) or who knows maybe even someone other then that!
Michelle
Ok, So I did not call him I just sent him a text that said "if you cant make it that’s fine, don't worry about it:)". I went and got my nails done as I had planned and then went home. When I got home I turned on my computer and checked my work email and went downstairs to watch the Yankee game. When I went back upstairs at around 10pm and looked at my computer I had the following message from him "hi m I really wanted to chill, i miss u, im sorry I can’t make it tonight, will u be around during vacation?"
I of course seeing the message was sent at (7:02:19 PM) I did not even bother to reply. So now do I say anything or what? Should I send him an email? I am going away to Vermont tomorrow and my vacation extents until next Tuesday, I am not sure what day I will be coming back to New York and I don’t want to give him a specific time nor do I want him to think I am coming back just to spend time with him, because well I just wouldn’t do that. So any advice now on what I should do?
Michele