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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:48pm |
Ok...here goes...i can't believe that i'm going to post this...I met a guy online in the "intimate" category. i've been out of a marriage for two years now and have two children, so i haven't had time for dating.
A guy stood out and we hit it off. i told him that i wasn't looking for anything serious and neither was he so we agreed on a FWB deal. iam 37yo...I've been around and i know the deal. We met for a drink and hit it off and agreed to meet that w/end. I should mention that i am plus sized...(i say that because I know that there are many men out there who would sleep with me, but many more who are not loking for anything more with me.) Well, honestly...he got in a car accident coming home from work out of town....I thought i was stood up, and told him in a text that that wasn't cool. He provided me proof in the form of a newspaper article that there really was an accident and everything added up. i made sure to follow up and honestly...everything that he said happened before the article came out...really did occur. We began talking again this past week. Honestly, the sexual chemistry was there. it was also obvious that the other stuff was there too. We had a lot in common. HOWEVER...i was still aware that our arrangement was FWB. We had over 60 text messages and 5 conversations within a two day period.
So, we had agreed to get together tonight at my house. It was understood i thought that this was just going to be fun. i decided to ask him a few more questions about him just so that i would feel safe. He refused to give me his last name. Anyhow, i get this text that he was "freaking out". "what happens if it doesn't work with us and is just a one night stand and I get upset? Maybe we should meet at a neutral place then we can just walk away and if we want to decide to meet again then we could." He asked me to book a room as he was still at work. "He'll call me in one hour."
Yeah... that was three hours ago. I didn't book the room as I knew something was up.
I text him asking if he was getting cold feet. No answer. I text him an hour later asking him if i was being stood up, and that if i was... that the decent thing would be to let me know. So, u guessed it...no call.
Seriously, i was not looking at this as anything more than what we had agreed to.What the he#$ is going on with this guy? He was very eager to get together with me and i have no idea what changed in his mind other than that he felt a chemistry between us and it scared him for one of several reasons: 1. I'm plus sized 2. He felt an attraction and that scared him, or 3. he really thought that i was going to fall for him.
Please, can anyone shed some light on this?

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He provided *PROOF* of his accident in a newspaper article, but you don't have his last name? How can that be? Hmmmmm.....LOL.... Sure he knew everything that happened in the accident because he read the article. Even then you were going to allow this IDless man into your home?
Then he wants you to book a room in YOUR name (not his). Then you get stood up.
and here you are concerned about whether or not he was afraid of chemistry and falling for each other! Woah!! Listen, I'm not going to sugar coat this. There is something seriously wrong with this picture. Do you realize how UNSAFE this is on so many levels?
I am pretty sure my little post won't shed any light on your situation for you. I am worried for you, and I feel you should rethink your strategies. I am SO GLAD you got "stood up". Thank G-d.
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