What the heck!!

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Registered: 08-12-2003
What the heck!!
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 8:33pm

I wrote earlier this week about the guy who was seemingly interested but then told me he was moving. Last Sunday he said we could still get together for lunch but I hadn't heard form him since that request. At the time I had responded with some questions and had given him my phone number so I was wondering why I had no contact after that. I know he gets his email on his blackberry and in the past he had responded right away.

Well last night I broke down and sent him a one line email asking if I had done something to scare him off. (I know I know; believe me I am bit embarrassed) He responded right away "Not at all" "Nor am I". What does that mean??? Should I be patient or write him off.

I am noticing a trend of men who just want to get my attention with no intention of following through. I think it is just to stroke their ego. How sad that I am turning cynical so quickly but I am already starting to sour on this process.




Edited 9/1/2006 9:32 pm ET by mmsavannah
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 8:58pm

It means you didn't do anything to scare him off (and yes, many, many lashes with a wet noodle for you for asking that question!!!!) and he's not "scared off".

But neither is he all that interested. If he were, it wouldn't have taken a email "prodding" at him to get a response.

Sheri

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:18pm

I think you are right and I am so annoyed. The funny thing is he was the one asking all the questions and into me. I haven't responded and I won't unless he has some great explanation.

I cringed after I sent that email. I need to learn patience.

Newbie

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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:17am

Totally agree with Sheri here. You didn't do anything to scare him off and he's not scared off but he's just doesn't have it in him right now to initiate anything. I'd just let that one go for now. No more contacting him. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I've had this happen to me on more than one occasion so I can relate!

Dani

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Sat, 09-02-2006 - 10:51am
Honestly tho, why do you care at this point?
heather 5-18-10