What I don't get (small vent)
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What I don't get (small vent)
| Fri, 07-08-2005 - 12:30pm |
What I don't get is when you have met someone on line and you date for a few months, then they don't call, they don't nothing!
Maybe it's me and I would give someone the respect of calling and saying "hey I don't think this is going to work out".
I have been seeing someone for about 3 months and then out of the blue he stops calling and will not return my calls.
AHHHH I hate this dating thing!
Krisy

I'm sorry, I've had this happen to me also a number of times, and I don't get it either. If it's any consolation, though, I've also had it happen with men I met IRL (not just online).
I agree, after dating for that long, he should at least have the courtesy and respect to call you and let you know he's not interested in pursuing this further (IMO, if you've gone out more than twice, you at least owe the other person an email!), but unfortunately you can't make people behave the way you want them to ;-).
Sheri
Your stomach must be doing flip flops – I’m so sorry this person you got to know for 3 months couldn’t be man enough to let you know you weren’t a long term match for him. Remember, Karma – he’ll get his share. I know it doesn’t make you feel better but at least you know now rather than 6 months so you can move forward.
I’m in the reverse situation:
I’m dating two people; one for about 6 weeks – we’re going out tonight but I may end up saying good bye by next week and I’ll let him know why and how much I enjoyed our time together. I don’t want a commitment from him and I’m not sure why; I’ve never felt that way. New guy I see potential so if I can feel that with someone right away and 6 weeks with this guy and nothing; I don’t see that changing. Thought I’d try something different but it didn’t work and tonight is sort of my last chance (anything is possible) but I don’t want to string him along, I think of myself in the situation.
I will add I REALLY have fun with this person too, it has nothing to do with him personally it’s just a feeling and I can’t put my finger on it – this is a first for me. I’ve had men in the past say that and I thought it was an excuse and now that I’m experiencing it first hand I know it’s not – just not in the cards, no reason.
Chin up sweetie!!!
SP
I think ghosting after 1-3 dates is ok.
ITA! I had a guy kind of do this to me after we dated for awhile. We reconnected a year later and he took me out to dinner and I just flat out told him how cowardly that was and his response, "I dont' like to break anyones heart"
And I said "No you don't like to deal with the fallout of breaking anyones heart because you broke it anyhow, you just cowardly skipped away so you didn't have to deal with it"
He turned beat red and said he was sorry. He knew it was true.
I think people can be cowardly when they have to face up to things like this.