what I'm doing wrong

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-2005
what I'm doing wrong
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 2:47pm

I don't know what I'm doing wrong when meeting guys from OLD. I'm a quieter type of person so maybe that has something to do with it, I don't know. I do talk, just not usually as much as they do. Once I get to know somebody, I'm not that way but I don't get the chance to know them. It's been 6 meets so far and nobody has asked for a second date.
They see my pics, maybe I don't look identical to them, they were taken in May of this year and last winter so they're not that old. I find it very frustrating and want to change but don't know how.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 10:02pm
It's nothing that "you" are doing wrong at all. Don't beat yourself up over the fact that there wasn't a connection on the guy's part. Just be yourself, it's all that you can do, and besides you want someone to like you for who you are too. Try not to get too nervous on the first date, just treat it like you are meeting up with a friend and if you are being who you are genuinely and not acting, that's when you are most attractive. I believe that there are several people for everyone in this world where there is a mutual connection. You just haven't met one of them yet. I've heard several stories from friends and from people on this board who are doing OLD that have had the same problem. Hang in there and keep at it and if you are burnt out take a break for a little while and then go back to it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2003
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:47pm

I'm sure it is nothing that you're doing wrong, but 6 dates isn't an enormous number of dates.