this is what I'm thinking
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this is what I'm thinking
| Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:52pm |
Ok, I seem to have one of two different affects on men. The first group of men for some reason totally turn stalker. They want to marry me on first date, or fly my across country to live with them, send me 20 e-mails a day...you get the idea...the other group ghosts on me. Most of them ghost after a first date that I thought went well. Occasionally they ghost before we even get to that stage. That's ok. these last few I can deal with. But the others confuse me. So what I am thinking is I should put together some sort of exit interview. Kind of like you might get when you leave a job or college or something. Just so I can kind of have an idea of what's happening. I always was a research junkie. DOn't worry I don't tell them that on first dates.

Sorry I guess I'm just not understanding the post.
Practically I don't think it would work, I doubt anyone would fill it out.
Hang in there; I'm sure it's nothing you're doing wrong. This is just "dating" in general. With OLD though; you could be a filler date for a lot of the guys you're meeting that ghost on you. They may have had better connections with other women. You've been there, meet a nice guy but bachelor number one is your ultimate pick so why pursue with bachelor number two if something is missing.
Trust me, you'll find a mutual match who will follow up with that second date, just takes time and good for you for going back out there and trying again.
SP
IMO the biggest downside to OLD is that pressure to hit it off from the get-go. Two virtual strangers meet and are already sizing each other up as potential mates (in most cases). You put a lot of pressure on yourself and too many expectations on him.
I've just decided to relax and enjoy the ride...after I finish taking my time-out;P