What kind of First Dates to you like?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
What kind of First Dates to you like?
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Mon, 03-07-2005 - 8:00pm

So you've emailed and talked on the phone and everything seems right. You First-Meet for the ritual coffee and it's all nice. He says he'll call you and he does. He asks you out for a date.

Where/What would a good First-Date be for you?

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 11:49pm

Hi John,

The guy I'm seeing now (for a little over 5 weeks) found out on our first meeting that I liked this little town and he did also (not too far from either of us)- so we went to the Snowfest festival that they had there (in MI) with ice and snow sculptures and then after walking around viewing the sculptures went to the restaurant there that I had picked form his previous suggestions. He had suggested a few places there when we talked on the phone before the date and then let me choose.

After a really nice dinner, we went outside and there were fireworks lighting the sky outside which neither one of us knew about, which was nice. Then we walked around in the little shopping area for a little while, yet it was kind of chilly so not too long, and when we walked past a fudge shop, the smells were heavenly and I think he noticed I liked the smell and he suggested that we go inside, and asked what was my favorite kind of fudge, and bought some for me. Just a little thing, but nice. Yes I LOVE chocolate!

So I guess I liked that he took the time to notice things I liked and had listened to places I enjoyed going.

Had it been warmer weather, I would have enjoyed a nice walk outside near a lake or something - yes where people are around since I wouldn't have known him that well yet! I think going to a winery would be fun - a wine tasting - yummy - if you both liked wine. Just being creative and going from common interests shows that you are interested enough to listen to what the other person has to say and to pick up on their likes and dislikes. I like observant people.

Also LG, the man whore thing had me ROTFL. There is a restaurant near me that I have had numerous first meets at and I have gotten some looks from the same staff - especially the younger guys, when they have seen me with a few different guys in a week's time. Oh well, when you find a place that works, they should be happy you are coming back giving them business! But the looks are funny!

Sunshine

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 9:25am

Some of my favorite first dates:

Baseball game (local AAA team)
Hockey game (local AFL team)
Art gallery opening
State Museum (strolling through and then going to the planetarium show)
Fireman's Carnival

OK..have to add a few. Holly's post reminded me of a wonderful first date when I lived in NC. He took me to play putt putt and we had SO much fun.

I'm juvenile enough to love arcades - ski ball, pin ball, whack a mole, etc. I don't think I've ever been to an arcade on a first date, but I bet it would be fun.




Edited 3/8/2005 9:34 am ET ET by sisfox


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Registered: 09-15-2003
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 4:41pm

I have to be assertive and make decisions all day, so I don't mind handing the reigns off in this area. When I'm first dating someone I perfer for him to step up and make the decision on what we are doing where we are going. If a guy asks me out and them doesn't have an idea about what he wants to do, it irritates me. Or this one is the worst and I've had it happen twice to me- we've had our coffee date and he says we can do whatever I want for our date and then he says no to everything i suggest. Grrrrr.... I hate that!!!

My best suggestion is ask her if she has a favorite type of food and then take her to a restaurant that serves that type of food. This way you know it'll be something she's like and eat.

As for first date activities I've had dinner at a little sidewalk cafe where we people watched and then walked around, gone to Dave and Busters (similar to an adult version of Chuck E. Cheese), courtside Laker game, hung out at a park, and the big thing where I live are to go to outdoor "mall" type places and have lunch/dinner then walk around talking and people watching. My favorite second date was at Burke Williams- it's a spa in Southern CA. He told me to wear something comfortable and the rest was a surprise. Fun Fun!!

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 7:11pm

Good first dates for me include pool because its fun, allows you to talk and get to know each other and can go on for hours if you are having great time or be terminated after a game or two if its going badly. I also like going for dinner...allows for conversation again. A few guys have taken me to movies for first dates but I find this does not really allow you to get to know the person.

mom of 2

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Registered: 08-04-2004
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 7:19pm
All my first meets seem to turn into "dates" but I will say, I am not crazy about having dinner anywhere. Last night had a first date/meet where we started at the front and worked our way to the back at Dave and Busters. It was a great time. Had drinks first at the front bar, had dinner in the restaurant and then went and played some arcade games. I thought it rounded things out nicely and I could have left at any time. I am hoping for a second date right now. Only other date that really stands out would be a second date. Had a meet on friday night, dinner saturday night and went to an amusement park all day on Sunday. Amusement park was the best time, we both had a blast. It is greatly appreciated when the guy makes the plans though, even if I ended up hating where we went, he would get points for making the effort. Details make the difference.

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