What is love?
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What is love?
| Mon, 10-31-2005 - 8:59pm |
This is a follow-up from chat which turned into a really great discussion...
What is love?
Is it fleeting and changing? Or is is solid and steady? What adjectives would you use to describe it? And what is the difference of love vs. being in love?
The more descriptive the better... :o)

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So many different types of love. I love coffee and can't imagine a day without it so that would be a solid and steady love. I love a song for maybe a couple weeks and then I'm done. I love my cats and probably don't know how much until something happens to them. I love U2. I love my family. I love my new shoes. I must love these boards because they've been a part of my life for way too long.....lol.
I'm guessing you're meaning love between men and women. Real love is one that lasts and if it doesn't, it wasn't real. That's all I know.
Romantic love- Love is giving, caring puting the other person ahead of yourself. Love is secure, not jealous, not keeping a score card( I did this for you;etc). It's respectful, it's considerate. It's always rock steady there for you. As beautiful and all powerful that love may be, it is also fraile. Like a garden it must be tended to and nutured, for if it's neglected, it withers and dies.
A Mother's love- Infinate.
"Real love is one that lasts and if it doesn't, it wasn't real."
Does that mean if you love someone and it didn't last a lifetime it was not love?
Just curious...
CL-Truewild1969
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I have to disagree with the person who said if love didn't last, it wasn't real. I don't think that's necessarily true. I have had REAL love once in my life & it didn't last, mainly because both of us were still too young & immature to nurture it & grow together. To this day, I still love him, but realize that we probably weren't meant to stay together for a lifetime. However, without the love & loss, I wouldn't have learned anything & have been who I am now, ready to truly have real love last forever.
I think just because it didn't last forever doesn't mean it was real love. Bubkus.
Annie
I have not read the other replies yet, but here is my take...
Love is an intense emotion that you have for someone that is of a nature where it makes you want to be affectionate and close to that person and spend time with that person....it makes you gushy and makes you want to include that person in your plans...
Being in love means you want to be with that person you are in love with most of your free time...that you want to live with that person, that you are compatible and want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
How did I do??? LOL
Sara
Adding that love does die too.....no matter if you are in love or not. It can die. Love needs to be nurtured.
Edited 11/2/2005 12:46 pm ET by saralm
Hmmm...now, see, what you "love", I would call "infatuation".
To me, love is a much deeper emotion. It's based on real, intimate knowledge of the other person (and that's why it takes time to form). It involves complete acceptance of who the other person is, warts and all. It is steady and calm...even if you get angry at the other person, or whatever, the love is still there underneath, steady and firm.
It can die or fade, however, and it isn't always enough to sustain a relationship.
Edited to add: it is also unselfish...real love means, IMO, that you want what is best for the other person, even if that is not necessarily what is best for YOU. I've also heard it described as a state where the happiness of the other person is essential to your own, and I would tend to agree with that.
Sheri
Edited 11/2/2005 1:28 pm ET by northwestwanderer
Hi CL-Truewild1969,
>....."Those who have lost it never
>find it again". Is that true? I hope not!
I think it is. But you don't need to worry because your definition of love may be entirely different.
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