What is love?

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What is love?
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 8:59pm

This is a follow-up from chat which turned into a really great discussion...


What is love?


Is it fleeting and changing? Or is is solid and steady? What adjectives would you use to describe it? And what is the difference of love vs. being in love?


The more descriptive the better... :o)


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Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 1:28pm

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Personally I don't believe that statement, but I am curious about something Hal. I don't know your history, as to whether you've ever been married or in love, and I'm not passing judgement. But I wonder if you've been in love and really believe that statement then what are you looking for, casual dating, companionship, FWB? And would you tell a woman you were dating that you believe you can never find love again if you've lost it? Just curious...

Libra

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 1:46pm

Sheri,

I can definitely see why you are saying my def. of love seems more like infatuation...I did not give enough detail of the emotion in that description. I should have added some details like a feeling that you do not want to be with others intimately...you want to be exclusive...you want to know all about that person and share things with that person...You are right. It is more than what I said.

 
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 1:48pm
I don't believe you can never find love again once you have lost it either. That is totally untrue, in my book. Sorry to disagree, Hal.
 
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 3:06pm

maybe that means you can only truly love once??

i say true love comes from w/in first. love thyself then you can love others..if you don't have that first then you will never find real love, because real love is loving yourself..

unconditional love, acceptance of yourself and then acceptance of the person

wanting to do things for that person unselfishly make them happy, fill their desires and needs.

knowing there innermost feelings/passions in life. their thoughts and fears. and still loving them when they are vulnerable.

loving their idiosyncrasies.
completely and utterly inlove................ it is a feeling that you will know and will completely overwhelm you w happiness. but again you can't find this until you are complete first!

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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:05pm

I have loved completely 3 times in my life...three different people. Was in love with each of them at some point. I still love all three in some way, although I am no longer in love with them. One of them has passed from this world, though that is not why we were not together. He did not love me. The other two loved me back but it did not last forever. I am ready to love again. Being in love is the best thing. It is possible to find love more than once.

Sara

 
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Registered: 10-08-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:08pm

"Those who have lost it never find it again."

I can tell you from experience that this is not true.

Also, heaven help us all if we all only love once. If so, then I would have been done in college!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 6:08pm
So true! LOL. I would have been done at 19 if you never find love after the first time! And he didn't even love me back! What a disappointment that would have been, if it were the only shot I had! :)
 
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Registered: 05-28-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 6:23pm

I think that true love is unconditional....it doesn't mean you stay with someone who abuses you or treats you badly. It means that you love and care about the other person, even though you may have to leave them for their own good or your own.

True love never dies....it may fade with time, but it never completely dies.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:16pm
Well, that is your opinion, I am sure...that true love doesn't die. Could just be the wording. It sure can change into something else...some other kind of "love"....like friendship or something else....It does change, die, whatever you want to call it or refer to it as...That's my opinion.
 
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Registered: 09-14-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:07pm

It is my opinion and it's how I feel. I've been in love three times in my life. And if any of those was real love, I wouldn't be doing this God awful OLDing....lol. We all have our own definitions of what we think love is and that's mine. Even if you bubkus it...lol.