What is love?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
What is love?
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 8:59pm

This is a follow-up from chat which turned into a really great discussion...


What is love?


Is it fleeting and changing? Or is is solid and steady? What adjectives would you use to describe it? And what is the difference of love vs. being in love?


The more descriptive the better... :o)


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Registered: 01-27-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 10:19am

Hi Hal,

I think that companionship love lasts the longest. Romantic love fades over time, often it settles into companionship. I think many of us have this idealistic view on what love is, couples that have been married for 30,40,50 years or even longer know that all the trappings of love (ie passion) are not the keys to longevity.
I think you can have several great "loves" or none at all..there is no science to love.

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Registered: 10-27-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 2:57pm

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I think everyone has their own definition of love. And I do agree with you that it's all based on actions not MEANINGLESS words. Hence the reason we say, actions speak louder than words.

What I have discovered over the years and in speaking with different people is, some people tend to search endlessly for the exact kind of love they had with someone who was their first love, or who they say was the love of their life. Personally, I don't think you can ever find the same kind of love you had with someone else, because no two people are alike. IMO for people to seek that same thing is only cutting their chances of finding love again because they are always comparing others to the one they lost. But I do think that people can love again and I think it's different each time. But it can be just as fullfilling, if not more so, the 2nd or 3rd time as it was the first time.

FWB? I disagree, but that's my perogative. I know that it can happen, although I do think it's very rare.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 3:41pm

Okay, Hal...On this I can agree with you! FWB is a hard one to believe. One person probably will wind up feeling more than the other...or they could fall for each other, I guess. I imagine there is a rare case here and there where they both feel the same....just like friends only. There is always an exception, ya know?

Sara

 

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