What makes a date interesting?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
What makes a date interesting?
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:26am

Based on posts and friends' stories, I've lately been contemplating what makes a date interesting. We all know what we like/don't like and what holds our intentions but I know those things are very individual to a person, so I'm curious about your thoughts...


What makes a date/person interesting?
And what makes you want to spend more time with a person?


Is it that they travel a lot? Have funny stories? Charming? Bold? Daring? What is it that does it for you?

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Avatar for travkitty
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 12:00pm
I love a guy who is well-spoken, has a little gleam of energy in his eye, likes to smile, & gets my jokes. I'm kind of a female Chandler, so if a guy thinks I'm funny, he's golden.
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Registered: 10-02-2003
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 3:14pm

I find my self impatient with just being together (eating out). I need some kind of ACTIVITY! My ideal first date would involve building something (not realistic, I know) But I want to see how he works, organizes his thoughts, interacts, etc. I want a problem solver kinda guy!

Truly, I just had date number 3 with a guy and what I really want is for us to work towards a goal of some sort together. Since we don't share a common history, although we have interests in common, a lot of our conversation seems to focus on things we would LIKE to do, rather than what we are doing.

sooooobig
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 12:46pm

I like when the conversation just kind of flows and we find out we have things in common (likes, dislikes, etc.).

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 2:20pm

Yes...that's what does it for me, too. There's a certain positive energy that results when that happens, I find.

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 8:29pm

What makes a date/person interesting?

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 12:07am

...engaging banter, witty or sarcastic jokes back and forth. If a guy gets my sense of humor he's IN! A nice smile and eyes along with that is perfect.

I'm more drawn to men who can talk about a wide variety of topics or current events, but not intensely, just casually and intelligently.

He also must be very polite not only to me but to other ppl (like to the waiter, etc). I guess that's more of a dealbreaker, but still thought I'd mention it.

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 7:41am
I'm so with you on the waiter thing... I hate when people are rude to waiters (unless they deserve it).
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:03am

wow...where does one begin....? I have had all kinds of 'interesting' some surpassing others...My general feeling it is of course, the person - not the date that makes it interesting, you know the CHEMICAL thing...

Incredible first dates filled with flowers, etc...I have found tend to lead nowhere - so I am a bit learyof those...I mean I have had guys send me incredible flowers before our first date - perhaps they are looking to seal something in place before we actually go out...I have had first dates that lasted 3 days!

What makes me want to see them again...again its that chemical thing that already has been established - so generally I have a pretty good feeling on how things are going to go... Although I have had that 'date' from HELL - where the guy in the middle of dinner - when there was a lull in the conversation would actually say "LULL" and I had no idea what he was saying until he had said it about 4 or 5 times!

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 5:29pm
I’m a sucker for bold, self confident guys. Finding quirky things in common also gets my interest (like I have very idiosyncratic music taste, mentioned that Tosca, some Basie, the Stones, Coldplay, and Buena Vista Social Club were all tops on my i-pod and my date said he had the Stones, Coldplay, and a big band jazz CD in his car at that very moment). Obviously, having things in common gets things started, but it’s the things we don’t have in common that piques my interest. Dated a guy who made no mention of his passion for horse racing in his online profile. I know nothing beyond watching the Kentucky Derby on TV. Turned out he owns race horses, knows a lot about the business, has a horse that was running in a big race in CA (she won), very cool. Now I kind of understand how it all works. I also think it’s important that a guy makes time to be together, we all have very busy lives. My current BF won my heart when he jumped through hoops to get back from a business trip in time for our 2nd date. No doubt in my mind that he was totally “into me”. No bigger turn off than a guy who is too busy to spare a couple of hours once or twice a week for some fun, social activity.
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 7:02pm
On my 3rd date with the guy I'm now seeing, he gave me a choice of 3 different things I would like to do. He said one was more of a kid at heart kind of activity, another was cultural and another was comical but classy. I chose the kid at heart activity. He took me to a haunted hay ride after a sushi dinner. Talk about creative. We got a chance to cuddle up close and also have fun at the same time and relive our childhood. This was probably the best date I've ever had. He gave me a rose at the end too. I'm looking forward to the other activities that he has up his sleeve. He said we will do the others in time and won't tell me what they are. The thoughtful/creative things this man has thought up has been so refreshing and wonderful. It doesn't even have to cost a lot of money, even just suggesting a picnic somewhere, getting creative with what kinds of foods to put together and going for a nice long walk is very romantic/interesting.

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