What "no answer" means

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Registered: 05-06-2006
What "no answer" means
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Thu, 07-27-2006 - 10:52am

This is somewhat connected to the discussion about whether a person who puts "doesn't drink at all" in his profile is likely to be a recovering alcoholic or not.

I was just contacted by a guy who seems very attractive but who has not answered the question about drinking frequency. This is noticeable because (a) he answered the smoking one ("no way") and (b) he has a preference for his match's drinking (he marked everything except "doesn't drink at all."). Now it is possible that it was just an oversight-- sometimes you think you've answered a question but you didn't. But I'm going to ask about it.

This made me think about how sometimes "no answer" is a sign of the person's openness to variety (for example, when the person leaves the "want more children" or "preferred height" categories blank) but more often than not, "no answer" makes you wonder what the person is not wanting to admit to.

Do most of you assume that "no answer" may mean "I have something I want to hide"? Or am I just being a bit paranoid?

Elsa

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 5:42pm
I think that leaving it blank AND not answering your question is a big red flag.







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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 8:55pm

ok, listen... guys tend to be good for about one question per email. I wouldn't read too much into it. When you talk to him, bring it up and that's that. ;o)


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Registered: 05-06-2006
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 10:01pm
Good point about guys not being good for more than a question per e-mail. If I were really interested, I'd try again, but I'm not really. He seems to have some odd ideas about minorities. Maybe he was trying to be funny, but... it wasn't.
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Registered: 11-20-2003
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 9:27am

My ex DH drinks about a case of beer a day, but on a questionaire, he will only put "a few" and if asked, he'll only admit to "5 or 6". I didn't know he was a heavy drinker until after we married. He was good at hiding it. And I do agree that men are not capable of replying to extensive emails. They usually skim over it or only reply to the last question.

Jeanie

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